"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Guy getting called "sassy" by a girl

BigSmooth

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I was at my fraternity tailgate this past weekend before our college football game just chilling and having a relaxed time. There were many girls there pre-gaming with us and I saw a group of three girls I have never seen before so I approached them and started chatting them up, showing a little intent but was mostly just being friendly and teasing them occasionally.

I continued to talk to them for about 10 more minutes then excused myself to check up on some tailgate logistics. I then proceeded to walk around and I see one of the girls from earlier standing alone so I went up to her and proceeded to flirt and exude my true personality. We were vibeing well and then at some point while I was teasing her by making fun of something she said, she told me I was sassy/I had some sass in a semi-flirty way.

Now I have never, ever had a girl say this to me and I can say that I am a fairly successful guy with ladies (if anyone has read some of my advice posts...although I do acknowledge I still have a lot to learn!) and I was just flabbergasted with this.

I don't even know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. What would being sassy as a guy actually mean? Has anyone else ever had a girl say this to you?



No I am not homosexual or metrosexual or a feminine guy by the way for any trolls. :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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perseverance said:
What on earth does 'sassy' even mean?
That is exactly what I am wondering.
 

Who Dares Win

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sas·sy 1 (ss)
adj. sas·si·er, sas·si·est
1. Rude and disrespectful; impudent.
2. Lively and spirited; jaunty.
3. Stylish; chic: a sassy little hat.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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perseverance said:
According to Urban Dictionary

Sassy means "possessing the attitude of someone endowed with an ungodly amount of cool." http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sassy

Not a bad compliment in all honesty!
Haha well I'll take it. Always knew I was "sassy". :woo:


Who Dares Win said:
sas·sy 1 (ss)
adj. sas·si·er, sas·si·est
1. Rude and disrespectful; impudent.
2. Lively and spirited; jaunty.
3. Stylish; chic: a sassy little hat.
I've heard girls/women describe other girls/women as sassy and I'm guessing they mean mostly definitions #1 and 3, with a little of 2.

I like to think I'm definition of #2. Haha.
 

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Usually means ball breaking in a gay way.

Probably her way of busting your balls about busting her's.

Looks like she got you!
 

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FairShake said:
Usually means ball breaking in a gay way.

Probably her way of busting your balls about busting her's.

Looks like she got you!

Yeah she got me there because I had nothing witty to say back to her at that time.

I personally love girls who know how to actually tease back properly and bust on people's balls (talking in a non-sexual way right now ;) ).

It gives me a stir in my loins.
 

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It means playfully sarcastic or ball busting or sort of feisty.

But it's usually a term used for females. It's almost never used to describe a guy.

Notwithstanding, I don't think it's anything to worry about. She's not suggesting you are gay. I think she's just being playful and/or didn't use the right word. You did fine game-wise. If anything, it's an IOI.
 

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BigSmooth said:
I was at my fraternity tailgate this past weekend before our college football game just chilling and having a relaxed time. There were many girls there pre-gaming with us and I saw a group of three girls I have never seen before so I approached them and started chatting them up, showing a little intent but was mostly just being friendly and teasing them occasionally.

I continued to talk to them for about 10 more minutes then excused myself to check up on some tailgate logistics. I then proceeded to walk around and I see one of the girls from earlier standing alone so I went up to her and proceeded to flirt and exude my true personality. We were vibeing well and then at some point while I was teasing her by making fun of something she said, she told me I was sassy/I had some sass in a semi-flirty way.

Now I have never, ever had a girl say this to me and I can say that I am a fairly successful guy with ladies (if anyone has read some of my advice posts...although I do acknowledge I still have a lot to learn!) and I was just flabbergasted with this.

I don't even know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. What would being sassy as a guy actually mean? Has anyone else ever had a girl say this to you?



No I am not homosexual or metrosexual or a feminine guy by the way for any trolls. :rolleyes:
She's used to guys orbiting and kissing her ass.

You didn't.

Great job.

The Gambler
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wouldn't worry too much about that one.

She'd obviously just learned a new word and couldn't wait to use it in conversation.
 

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It means you are perceived as bold and witty. It's a good thing. Men don't use that word, but that's what she means.
 
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