You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes, Nimrod.Originally posted by NIMROD
hey heres my question:
In order to count cals, is it correct to assume carbs are 4 cals, protein 4 cals and fat 9 cals per gram.
Any assistince is greatly appreciated
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I beg to differ sir. While I agree on many points, allow me to voice my full opinion without too much slating; I'm new here but have plenty of weight-lifting experience (5yrs+ though I'm totally natural).For the purposes of cutting up to retain muscle mass.. it's bull****.
long cardio is for people who don't have the lungs or the balls to go hardcore. A short hyper-intense workout will have way more benefit on the body that some bullshyt, negative intensity, long cardio workout.
If you want to look like a marathon runner, then knock yourself out on the cardio.. if you don't participate in an endurance sport, long term cardio is pointless.. DIET not CARDIO is the key.
Your body will metabolize muscle mass just as well as it will fat. If anything it's easier for your body to metabolize muscle mass (4 calories per gram of muscle) than it is for it to metabolize fat. (9 calories per gram) -
if long cardio is so good, how come none of those endurance cyclists while lean are not shredded with evident muscularity. Yet, it's the sprinters who look like they are chiseled out of marble ??
Ok. How does one burn fat when your body is in a calories surplus?Originally posted by Warboss Alex
"Cutting, like bulking, is simple mathematics.. calories below maintenance = fat loss." - not always, that equals weight loss, not necessarily just fat loss. You can be in a calorie surplus and still burn fat.
Nutrient partitioning, cutting carbs at night, release of FFAs and their subsequent burning at the right time - for most of us, in the a.m. - among other things.Originally posted by MrLuvr
Ok. How does one burn fat when your body is in a calories surplus?
Originally posted by Warboss Alex
Nutrient partitioning, cutting carbs at night, release of FFAs and their subsequent burning at the right time - for most of us, in the a.m. - among other things.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks for your feedback. I don't think I want to go all the way to 400 gms a day right at once, so I will try to build it up over a couple of weeks.Originally posted by Warboss Alex
You appear particularly carb-sensitive, so I would concentrate carbs around breakfast-time, pre-workout and post-workout (post post workout depending on post-workout nutrition) - although your glaring error my friend, is the major mistake made by 90% of bodybuilders these days, which is undereating, and you're undereating pretty badly.
Your protein intake is barely at maintenance level; I doubt actually all that protein is being used anyway (lost to digestion etc) so that's simply why your gains have stopped (your training might have some effect too, but I'm pretty sure it's your diet).
250g? I'd go for 400g minimum. Your body is quite happy to stay at homeostasis, and your eating is giving it every reason to do so, and lay down some adipose too. So try 400g protein, eat the protein on your plate FIRST, then the veggies, carbs etc - trust me after eating a massive steak you won't have much room left for rice or potatoes, you'll eat only as much as your body really needs.
This way you should just ingest as many carbs as you need, without much of a surplus for a bodyfat bump, and going for twice your bodyweight in protein grams is definitely giving your body a signal that it should break out the muscle-building.
Try this my friend, 400g protein, continue to lift heavy, concentrate carbs around your workout (even if it means eating carbs at night), and let me know how you get on in a month's time. I've a feeling you'll be out of that rut ..
Bread is a complex carb unless you eat white bread. In which case, yuck.Originally posted by MrLuvr
Thanks for your feedback. I don't think I want to go all the way to 400 gms a day right at once, so I will try to build it up over a couple of weeks.
Regarding the carbs. If I am concentrating the carbs in the morning, I don't think I can get enough calories throughout the rest of the day to overcome a calorie deficit. Or is it more that I should concentrate the simpler carbs like bread early in the day and eat more complex carbs later on in the day?
WHen someone says no carbs after a certain time, does that mean NO CARBS at all? What about things like nuts? And fruit? What about carbs from milk? I drink a shake in the evening with milk in it. And I was eating cottage cheese at night, though I have stopped doing that now. So, when someone says no carbs in the evening, should these carbs from nuts, dairy etc. also be avoided?
And lose the muscle you gained too?I'm cutting again i have gained a bit of weight lately, and got a bit of a stomach, i'm really going to try and lose it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Too black and white, 20 minutes isn't the magic number BUT yes, your body will use carbs if it's got full glycogen stores - hence why cardio in the morning before eating (when your glycogen is low) burns fat nearly immediately.Originally posted by Jay-X
I always thought that you don't start burning fat before 20 minutes of training (in those 20 minutes, you use carbs), is this wrong?!
actually, i do agree with youOriginally posted by Warboss Alex
That's Diesel's opinion. I wouldn't know WHY he says no more than 20 minutes, he either means HIIT or would prefer to lose fat with dieting.
I'm just telling you mine, that dieting will probably lose too much muscle mass and I'd rather eat what I ate to make muscle (sensibly) and use cardio to strip off the fat.
Different approaches, different opinions, I know my approach works, I've no doubt that Diesel's does too .. see which works for you/which you prefer better.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.