"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Grrr. What kind of batch GF doesn't call on christmas?

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Maybe I'm just being a whiny b*tch....but WTF? It doesn't take much effort. I called and left a message this morning. She's out of town having Christmas with family.

F*cking seems like if I was that important, I'd at least get a goddamn phone call.

Call me crazy.


/Christmas venting session



BTW, merry Christmas, all you DJ's.

*raises glass*
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sup dude- your gf didn't call for Christmas....wtf that sucks- then again you could always ditch her for New Years Eve and be unavailable like her...by the way Cactus you know of any other good clubs open tonight? All I know is McFaddens....thanks I'm getting cabin fever....
 

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Maybe not crazy but definitely intense. Talk to her after you cool down.
 

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RiceHapa,

Yeah, bro, I'm pretty sure there's some places open tonight, but I don't know of any clubs off hand. Sh*t, I'm thinking about getting the hell out of the house, though.




Francisco d'Anconia,

Your right. I'm not going to call her back or anything. I don't know, it's weird though.
 

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well I heard FX will be poppin as well as McFaddens- you could always hit them up...try to get out so you dont have to think about this **** man
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah, I might pop downtown and try to forget about this stupid sh*t. Probably a good idea...I haven't gotten bombed on Christmas in a few years ;)
 

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good luck man - to me clubbing downtown is the best way to get your mind off that ****- once you see all those breezies over in the clubs its all good - later (gotta be there for the pre 11pm $3 L.I.'s!)
 
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1. She is too cheap and doesn't want to spend a dime to wish you a merry Christmas.

2. She expects you to call her first (don't do this).

3. She is on another guy's jock (maybe santa claus's):eek:

4. \she is too busy with family and friends and you are not her priority today.

5. Increased sunspot activity caused all satellites to be projected out of their orbit causing her cell phone not to work and all hardwired phones are "out of order" where she is visiting!:rolleyes:

6. She doesn't like you!:(
 

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call me a crazy ass biatch

but i got a lot of txt messeges no calls though really except from my really good friends.

well i replied to all the ones i actually cared about and to none of the ones i didn't care about..

it only took a few seconds to txt back saying "back at you" or "luv ya to merry xmas"

so yah man, that's just me. But then again i txt'ed my ex g/f's and NONE of them txt'ed me back lol

so i'm with PuertoRican_Lover something on that list applies and we hope its just #5 :p and on that note did you call her cellphone and leave a messege because yeah i just wanna get that clear
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
5. Increased sunspot activity caused all satellites to be projected out of their orbit causing her cell phone not to work and all hardwired phones are "out of order" where she is visiting
Whoa. I'm remembering that one for future use.
 

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unless the phone lines were down or something, id have to say something is wrong. id be pretty pissed too!
 

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For the record, she called at about 11pm, hehe.


I was clubbin.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover




3. She is on another guy's jock (maybe santa claus's):eek:

I [heart] you PRL ;)

That fat bastard DJ'd my GF...

I bet it had something to do with that fuzzy beard :eek:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by cactus3178
For the record, she called at about 11pm, hehe.


I was clubbin.
See, no harm no foul. Never let a woman's actions dictate your feelings. She could have fvcked up your entire evening if you had let her. She was enjoying herself with some other interests so why can't you? Never depend on anyone else as the sole supplyer of your entertainment.

$FD
 

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Originally posted by cactus3178
I [heart] you PRL ;)

That fat bastard DJ'd my GF...

I bet it had something to do with that fuzzy beard :eek:
Made a big fuss over nothing, didn't you? Sheesh, I bet if your girl acted like that with you, you'd dump her on the spot. Be a man.
 

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Originally posted by cactus3178
Maybe I'm just being a whiny b*tch....
Yup. I think you've got it pegged.

Christmas is a time for family. Are you family?

Just chill TF out and give her a call early this week and ask her how her holiday was.
 

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Originally posted by cactus3178
I [heart] you PRL ;)

That fat bastard DJ'd my GF...

I bet it had something to do with that fuzzy beard :eek:
Cactus,

Glad she ended up calling BUT...

Much more important than this one girl, this incident says a lot about where youi @ right now. And it's not a good place. You've given way too much power to this one woman over how you feel.

Not a big fan of calling some chick your GF in front of other guys... Where it doesn't matter what her title is. When one chick doesn't call, bounce off soft and move on to another one.

You're driving w/o a spare tire dude...

Get your a$$ down to Michelin TODAY and pick out something nice... just in case... Even if she's just a DONUT it's better than sitting on the side of the road freezing yo tail off!!!
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
1. She is too cheap and doesn't want to spend a dime to wish you a merry Christmas.

2. She expects you to call her first (don't do this).

3. She is on another guy's jock (maybe santa claus's):eek:

4. \she is too busy with family and friends and you are not her priority today.

5. Increased sunspot activity caused all satellites to be projected out of their orbit causing her cell phone not to work and all hardwired phones are "out of order" where she is visiting!:rolleyes:

6. She doesn't like you!:(
Good points. Despite the negative vibes, it´s still "good" because now the guy will know where he stands with "his" girl.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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