"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Growing Up

Jerry Maguire

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 4, 2005
Messages
227
Reaction score
4
I'm only 17 just now but I need some insight from older members.

I was just thinking, and speaking to my Dad. By the time I'm finished University, I'll be 22. By the time I'm 25, I'll be expected to be looking for a wife & kids. Then I'm a grown up.
Is life really this fast? imo, once you get married and have kids, it's all over.

My life is **** at the moment and I feel really depressed, I never have any fun, and I really don't want to waste these valuable years before I get into my 20s.
I want to move somewhere nice and travel the world, but most of all I'd just like to have some fun just now while I'm a teen, get some friends, girlfriend, get drunk and just have fun. It's so frustrating to think I'm wasting my life away by being afraid. I've applied to see a psychiatrist on the National Health Service to try and get it sorted out, but the waiting list is huge.

How could you advise me as mature posters? What do you think about my situation? Insight? Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Joined
Aug 14, 2005
Messages
58
Reaction score
0
I'll only give you one piece of advice, and this is the last advice you should ever take from anybody: only listen to people who have the kind of life you want. Do not listen to people who have lives that you wouldn't pay one thin dime for. Remember: his ideas are what got him where he is!
 

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
johnny_dangerously said:
I'll only give you one piece of advice, and this is the last advice you should ever take from anybody: only listen to people who have the kind of life you want. Do not listen to people who have lives that you wouldn't pay one thin dime for. Remember: his ideas are what got him where he is!
I found this post in a search and this quote is so awesome I resurrected it.
 

Bernackums

New Member
Joined
Feb 3, 2007
Messages
1
Reaction score
0
Well is that what you want to do with your life? Make sure you do some soul searching before all of this aswell. You only live once, so you only have one shot at it, so make sure whatever you do with the rest of your life is what you really want to do, and don't let anything stop you from that. You don't neccesarily have to settle down right after university, although that's what we've been told we should do (that's the perfect life right?:rolleyes: ), if you don't want to then dont, or find a good down to Earth girl who feels the same way.

And I agree with you that during your teens you should definitely be having alot of stupid fun. This is the only time in our lives that we can drink and smoke and just party for no good reason and have the perfect excuse that we're teenagers. It's our time to experiment, I don't mean to say you can't do that in the future, but the consequences may vary being worse.

To get rid of the blues, get a good grasp on the reality that you are living in. Don't look ahead and think that in seven years my life will be over, because your life is just starting, you have all the time you need to do whatever you want.

Hell on my hopes is to buy a big van and drive around the continent until i get bored, sure it won't help my future, and is a complete waste of money, but It's something that I want to do.
 

naes

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2005
Messages
110
Reaction score
0
Location
VA
^^ this post is a year and a half old...you should have read the post right above yours.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top