Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Growing Up

Jerry Maguire

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I'm only 17 just now but I need some insight from older members.

I was just thinking, and speaking to my Dad. By the time I'm finished University, I'll be 22. By the time I'm 25, I'll be expected to be looking for a wife & kids. Then I'm a grown up.
Is life really this fast? imo, once you get married and have kids, it's all over.

My life is **** at the moment and I feel really depressed, I never have any fun, and I really don't want to waste these valuable years before I get into my 20s.
I want to move somewhere nice and travel the world, but most of all I'd just like to have some fun just now while I'm a teen, get some friends, girlfriend, get drunk and just have fun. It's so frustrating to think I'm wasting my life away by being afraid. I've applied to see a psychiatrist on the National Health Service to try and get it sorted out, but the waiting list is huge.

How could you advise me as mature posters? What do you think about my situation? Insight? Thanks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'll only give you one piece of advice, and this is the last advice you should ever take from anybody: only listen to people who have the kind of life you want. Do not listen to people who have lives that you wouldn't pay one thin dime for. Remember: his ideas are what got him where he is!
 

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johnny_dangerously said:
I'll only give you one piece of advice, and this is the last advice you should ever take from anybody: only listen to people who have the kind of life you want. Do not listen to people who have lives that you wouldn't pay one thin dime for. Remember: his ideas are what got him where he is!
I found this post in a search and this quote is so awesome I resurrected it.
 

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Well is that what you want to do with your life? Make sure you do some soul searching before all of this aswell. You only live once, so you only have one shot at it, so make sure whatever you do with the rest of your life is what you really want to do, and don't let anything stop you from that. You don't neccesarily have to settle down right after university, although that's what we've been told we should do (that's the perfect life right?:rolleyes: ), if you don't want to then dont, or find a good down to Earth girl who feels the same way.

And I agree with you that during your teens you should definitely be having alot of stupid fun. This is the only time in our lives that we can drink and smoke and just party for no good reason and have the perfect excuse that we're teenagers. It's our time to experiment, I don't mean to say you can't do that in the future, but the consequences may vary being worse.

To get rid of the blues, get a good grasp on the reality that you are living in. Don't look ahead and think that in seven years my life will be over, because your life is just starting, you have all the time you need to do whatever you want.

Hell on my hopes is to buy a big van and drive around the continent until i get bored, sure it won't help my future, and is a complete waste of money, but It's something that I want to do.
 

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^^ this post is a year and a half old...you should have read the post right above yours.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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