Remember...you asked....
I believe in my experiences the principles of relationships can be closely tied to some basic principles of economics and vice versa, and the reason being that each are driven by common human denominators. This diminishing returns subject I refer to is but one example, and those knowing a little about economics are all too familiar with it. The economical, boring definition of this "law" is something you can look up for yourselves, as I won't bore anyone with the details. I'm not referring literally to the economic law anyway. It's figurative, hence exact economic definition inconsequencial.
What does this have to do with women? Before I get to that, let us put the ballpark fundamentals of this "law" into a more familiar, everyday example: Eating. What's your favorite food? Pizza? Sushi? Ice Cream? Doesn't matter. Think about what it is right now....Recall how you find it a treat when you can get it. Recall how you have had cravings for it in the past. Now, imagine eating it three times a day, every day of the week, every week of the month and every month of the year. Nothing else except this favorite food of yours. Breakfast, lunch and dinner every single day with no end in sight.
The idea is that you will eventually grow entirely sick of this crap once thought as a favorite. So sick of it, in fact, that the mere thought of eating it yet once again literally turns your stomach. Don't believe me? Try it for two weeks. Post a FR on it.
The idea is not to compare women to pizza, or even to say that being the man is like being a slice of pizza. Not at all. It is to compare the overload of a pleasurable sense. These pleasurable senses can be anything -- taste, touch, feelings, lust, admiration or orgasms.... Why do you think long time couples usually experience a decline in sexual activity? How many times have you awoken the day after promising to God you will never drink again? Diminishing returns. Depending on one element to make you or anyone else feel something indefinately weakens if not offset , paired or avoided periodically all together.
This is why people change over periods of time. It is something entirely seperate from the idea that, although possibly true, that you are becoming more of a chump or she more b*tchy than ever before. These facets are results of the issue I'm trying to reveal here.
Now let's take this understanding and inject it into a typical relationship. Or better yet, let's begin with the leading expectations before one:
"Hi, my name is Shelly. I am looking for someone who is down to earth. A guy who is open-minded, sweet, sincere, polite, understanding, a gentlemen, someone who can make time if they really want to, someone who likes sports, enjoys going out dancing or just sitting on a couch watching a movie. I am not sure if there is someone out there who fits that description and if there is...would like to meet him. The critical points to this special someone is that he is not involved in another relationship...he isn't dating someone exclusively, have a gf, engaged, or married to someone. You literally have to be single."
Now, obviously, this is a personals ad. And for your curiousity, this woman is actually a fairly attractive one. But never mind the context. We need only to know that this melodious crap came from a woman's mind.
Need I say the chump gets dumped? Of course not, this is Sosuave. Everyone knows this, and if they don't, they will within reading 5 threads. But why does he get dumped exactly? Too predictable? Boring? Not manly enough? The first time, yes. Every time after that, No! Every chump thereafter is like another slice of pizza, just like the one before, the one before that one, the next one and the next one after that. Just more cheese.
This should seem reasonably understandable to you by now, but what if I were tell you this is not the only way it happens in a woman's mind? Or anyone's mind for that matter? Let's look again:
"I've recently had to let go of my boyfriend so I currently have a opening for an insensitive loser jerk. These are pretty big shoes to fill as my ex was a real winner. If you are incapable of giving a genuine apology, compliment, or if you constantly find yourself saying insensitive things at just the right moment (i.e. death of a family member)you could be an ideal candidate. bonus points if you are over 60k in debt, have never lived alone, failed a military psych test, don't know that you need a passport to go to London and took close to 10 years to graduate with a bachelor's degree from a state college."
Yeah...ooooookay... Before I move on here, let me just say that this gem of an ad is not my attempt to pair up the idea of "being a man" to what backlash reaction it may cause a woman to have. I'm not there yet. The idea of this ad is to explore the same exact principles as the ad before, but from the more realistic side. This one too is looking for the "I love you too, sweety bunny boo" bullsh*t, but approaches it from an entirely different way.
What's the point? It's the coming around of the same thing over and over, like eating that same damn plate of crap every time. A part of you kicks in and tries to change something, anything, just to make it a liiiiiiittle different than before. It goes beyond internet dating. It goes beyond the club scene. It goes right down deep into the roots of happy marriages.
Do you think you're the first boyfriend? She your first girlfriend? There have been many before us, many before them. It's the entire reason Sosuave hatched in someone's mind. It may be the reason why you came here to begin with. It doesn't matter what it is: flirting, joking, ****y..all tact. Never one the solution. The solution is in the grander scheme of things; A new presentation of the same old things somehow interestingly combined....
