"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you guys go about approaching large groups in school? I'd like to approach a couple groups, but they're completely outside of my social circle and by doing so - I feel as if they wouldn't accept me and just see me as being weird.

What do you guys recommend?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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uhhh, well its quite simple.
Expand your social circle.

Whenever I see a large group, I don't usually approach the group unless I know 1 or 2 people in the group.
Then i'll just be like "hey (friends name) hows it going!" Talk about something and then start talking to the rest of the group and their names and stuff.

Pretty simple if you have a friend or two in the group.
 

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I might come off a little weird approaching a group of random people. Best to know someone within the circle, and branch off from there.

If it's a group of random ladies though, just come in with a bold statement or question, and keep your focus on the big ugly ones. :thumbs up:
 

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other said:
How do you guys go about approaching large groups in school? I'd like to approach a couple groups, but they're completely outside of my social circle and by doing so - I feel as if they wouldn't accept me and just see me as being weird.

What do you guys recommend?
The problem isn't with the groups or your 'lack of knowledge on what to do'. The problem is with the fact that you see yourself as somebody who's weird and socially unacceptable. Until you can figure out why this is and focus your attention on figuring this out, no amount of anything from anyone will help you.
 
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