"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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First off, this is my first post, so i would like to thank everyone here for helping me out. I have really come out of my shell since finding this site. Never had a gf before i found this site, since then ive had about three or four and have a few girls interested in me.

Now onto my predicament.

I met this girl through swimming (HB 8-8.5) and started talkin. We saw each other everyday, but now i swim for a different group and hardly ever see her. Ive been out with her with groups, (5-6 people at the movies, 15 people bowling). Through her friends, i know that she likes me and i wouldnt mind gettin with her. I wanna ask her on a 1 on 1 date, but im grounded. I talk to her on IM, but not for too long b/c i dont wanna run out of topics and start sounding retarded. I dont wanna stop talkin to her altogether, but I dont wanna seem needy and talk all the time. Since im grounded, i cant exactly ask her on a date, but i dont want her to lose interest or forget about me.
Any ideas?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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immrtlwun

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it already is summer. And she goes to a different school anyway. But im grounded for the next month or so. Even though it seems AFCish i would really like to get to know her better and maybe get a little somethin.
 
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Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Sneak out... what are you parents gonna do. Ground you longer?
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Yeah.

Or you can say you're goin somewhere else. If you have a job, pretend you're working that night. If not, pretend you're out looking for a job.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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immrtlwun

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Can't do the job thing, I work with my brother, so he can do some spying for my parents. I'm not exactly the smoothest at sneaking out either. I've been caught trying to do it before. But thanks for the help. Besides, my mom might let me out with "good behavior" kinda like being on parole if I help around the house, and I dont want to blow that.
 
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