"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I went into a video store the other day, looking for some slasher film to pass a couple of hours that evening. I was strolling the isles of DVDs, and I notice this GASTROPOD of a chick eyeballing me. With silent digust I resumed my fvck-them-up-kill-them-all DVD search.

I strolled down the isles and, low and behold, the gastropod was always within eyeball range, occasionally smiling with her triple chins. She started playing with her hair when she came to the slasher isle that was adjacent to the slasher isle I was browsing at.

Not wanting to cause some awkward skidaddle, I moon-walked my way to the horror section FAR AWAY from her ass. But, surprise surprise, soon she was there too, within STROKING distance.

Quickly, I grabbed the nearest DVD (The Reanimator) because I could smell she was about to try some big-girl love on me, and I didn't want to awkwardly reject her.

So, how do you guys' feel about such encounters with ****ing ETs. How do you handle such blatant attention. (Mind you, I get laid every so often by FIT, CUTE girls, so I'm not a complete lard-magne; however these ETs fvck my head up.)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's too bad those fat, ugly, unattractive girls aren't hott... The world would be a better and easier place for us men.
 

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r0cky said:
I'm yet to understand the purpose of ugly women.
They keep the ugly men who can't get pretty girls from causing wars out of frustration.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You have to let them down harshly because otherwise they tend to keep reframing what you say and persisting. If they are trying to strike up conversation (rather than just asking an honest question that you'd ask anyone, like in a video store 'where is the action section' e.g.) just say, slowly but forcefully, 'I am REALLY not interested' and turn back around.

Maybe it's a blow to their self-esteem... not my problem. Shouldn't be so damn persistent
 

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I make an effort to be friendly to everyone regardless of their appearance. There's nothing wrong with being friendly to an unattractive woman. Just don't ask her for her number. Women are usually too intimidated by attractive men to make the effort of asking for a number or date.

Social proof can be created anywhere at any time. That's a great reason to be friendly to everyone. The beached whale may have a sexy co-worker, and you'll stand a better chance of landing a date if you're friendly to both of them.
 

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Why are they always so confident though? Do they just feel like they have nothing to lose or what?
 

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i've learned that the best way to build character is to be honest and straightforward in all situations. Especially ones like these.

I used to pull girls fine but when ones i didn't like started to come in, i would be scared of hurting their feelings because i felt bad for them or other reasons.

You lose total control of the situation that way and end up running away. nothing wrong with being friendly but at the same time stand your ground and let her know you don't like her. You don't waste her time by leading her on but at the same time you're not putting her down either.

The girls actually see you as a man more this way and are more attracted but they also understand you're not interested.

Don't waste her time by leading her on and don't waste your time by jumping through hoops to avoid her.
 

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Desdinova said:
I make an effort to be friendly to everyone regardless of their appearance. There's nothing wrong with being friendly to an unattractive woman. Just don't ask her for her number. Women are usually too intimidated by attractive men to make the effort of asking for a number or date.

Social proof can be created anywhere at any time. That's a great reason to be friendly to everyone. The beached whale may have a sexy co-worker, and you'll stand a better chance of landing a date if you're friendly to both of them.
Very good advice.........
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rhino22 said:
Why are they always so confident though? Do they just feel like they have nothing to lose or what?
It's faked... they probably read some cosmo article that said 'guys like confident girls'. They always have articles about approaching guys.

It's like unattractive/male-attention starved girls acting extra slutty because they reason that guys will like 'sexual' behaviour
 

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Desdinova said:
I make an effort to be friendly to everyone regardless of their appearance. There's nothing wrong with being friendly to an unattractive woman. Just don't ask her for her number. Women are usually too intimidated by attractive men to make the effort of asking for a number or date.

Social proof can be created anywhere at any time. That's a great reason to be friendly to everyone. The beached whale may have a sexy co-worker, and you'll stand a better chance of landing a date if you're friendly to both of them.
While deep down inside I know I deplore fat chicks, it never hurts to put a game face on. They probably have hot friends, and you never know who you might insult by being a ****. As someone who will be working closely with a university and a large number of students/faculty , I am trying not to get any negative press so early on in the game.

One thing I find about unattractive chicks is that they seldom approach me. Regular girls can and do on a semi frequent basis, but typically they have some confidence to back it up. Unattractive girls actually don't seem to like me much, but when I go out I have more of a jersey shore look ( am part Italian, spike my hair), so that turns a lot of folks off. Its actually a good filter for the fattys without having to even say anything.

One good example is a pretty ugly chick who wants to get with one of my friends pretty bad. She is younger than me, but I mistakenly identified her as a cougar - so not good. I have gotten quite good at reading both good and bad signals from women, and this one is just downright intimidated and doesn't like me. Whenever we go out as a group, I get that cold shoulder feeling from her. My guess is because I am always talking to better looking women and trying to get my boys to do the same :D

*note, this post makes me sound more arrogant than I am. But than again, maybe I am!
 
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