Here's something that has perplexed me as I go out to clubs and bars more and more. I end up grinding with alot of girls. But when I try to kiss them or do anything else, they look at me like I'm insane. One girl, after I had been grinding with her REALLY hard and passionately for quite a while, told me she had a boyfriend! Am I dillusional? I always thought grinding was something really intimate, almost on par with kissing. The girls seem to regard it as no worse than a handshake. Is this common? Or am I just unlucky?
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JT47319
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It means very little unless you've applied or will apply Game on her.
There's no physical or emotional attachment otherwise.
There's no physical or emotional attachment otherwise.
CapiCrimini
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yep. Hell nowadays you can grind a nun, even a pope or some child-molesting priests. The last ones will even grind you back.no physical or emotional attachment otherwise.
Dapper Swindler
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Your observations are correct. One would think that grinding is intimate but it's really not. Especially for girls who will grind with people out of nowhere. You can sometimes hook up with girls this way but don't think it's going to happen just because they grind with you. How long do you grind with them before you try to kiss them? Do you talk to them first?
Dark Nimbus
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I had a debate about this topic with a chick I met and she told me grinding is just a form of flirting for her. She didn't take it seriously, and said she'd pretty much do it even if she had a boyfriend and he wasn't at the club with her that night. Personally I find that disturbing, a chick who thinks some guy rubbing his wood into her ass is just flirting. I think it's become pretty routine at clubs and isn't a big deal. If it were my girl doing it though, I'd get rid of her without a second thought.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dapper Swindler
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I agree. The hypocrisy is staggering.Originally posted by Dark Nimbus
I had a debate about this topic with a chick I met and she told me grinding is just a form of flirting for her. She didn't take it seriously, and said she'd pretty much do it even if she had a boyfriend and he wasn't at the club with her that night. Personally I find that disturbing, a chick who thinks some guy rubbing his wood into her ass is just flirting. I think it's become pretty routine at clubs and isn't a big deal. If it were my girl doing it though, I'd get rid of her without a second thought.
Girl: Whoah! Don't try to kiss me! That' way too intimate. Please get back to rubbing your wood in my ass
This is just more evidence of how womens' beliefs are just what society tells them. They are lead to think by society that it is just casual flirting to be grinded against, when all rational thought tells us otherwise.
-HPNOTIQ-
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Hell..grinding is nothing..
Hell..kissing is nothing..
Hell..even sex is nothing to women anymore.
This is the new age of attention wh*res fellas. None of the above actions imply anything nodays.
For a woman that you meet at a club, ask yourself this question when she does any of the above..grinding..kissing..sex on the first night meeting..ask yourself this.
DO I REALLY THINK I'M THE FIRST GUY SHE'S DONE THIS WITH?
Take it as part of the game.
Hell..kissing is nothing..
Hell..even sex is nothing to women anymore.
This is the new age of attention wh*res fellas. None of the above actions imply anything nodays.
For a woman that you meet at a club, ask yourself this question when she does any of the above..grinding..kissing..sex on the first night meeting..ask yourself this.
DO I REALLY THINK I'M THE FIRST GUY SHE'S DONE THIS WITH?
Take it as part of the game.
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dunno where you guys are from but around here... grinding is the standard for what it means to be "dancing". It's the only way people dance now. Girl bent over, guy behind them like he's hitting it doggystyle... any other dancing looks out of place. Thus, its nothing.
cannibustacap
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When I was grinding with a chick the other day I popped some wood and rubbed it against her... she seemed a bit stunned but went back to grinding... After the dance we parted without words or even EC :-/ whatever.
But anywayz..
So is it normal to rub your boner on her ass or is that just a joke (your guys' joke)? For a second I felt like I was going too far. I haven't danced that much in my day, but I LOVE grinding (just started now that I'm in college)
But anywayz..
So is it normal to rub your boner on her ass or is that just a joke (your guys' joke)? For a second I felt like I was going too far. I haven't danced that much in my day, but I LOVE grinding (just started now that I'm in college)