"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grinding (thought this could use its own thread)

When you get a boner while grinding:

  • Back off a little

    Votes: 6 18.2%
  • Keep on grinding and let her feel it

    Votes: 27 81.8%

  • Total voters
    33

familyguyfan

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I know there are a lot of threads on dancing, but I thought this could use it's own one, because a lot of people seem to disagree on what to do in this situation.

When you are grinding with a girl and you get a boner, do you back off a little bit or just keep going with it? Answer in the poll.

I thought this thread would be good to get a good idea of what most people think you should do in these situations.

Personally, I've always thought you were supposed to back off until I came on here and saw a lot of people saying the opposite.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Vincent

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It depends upon the relationship with the girl. If it's a girl you've dated before then she'll probably be ok with it, but if it's a girl that you're with for the first time you may want to back off.
 

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Trusts me girls like the feel, it makes them very horny infact. If the girl is mature and not some kimmature brat she wont mind.
This has happen to me once. My second in command got a little frisky and decided to do some jumping jacks. And it started to grind up on her. She could feel it as she looked at me in a chheky way and smiled, then she proceeded to grind even harder lol.
So i will vote yes.
 

AdrenalynJunkee

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I agree. If you're grinding with a girl, she's probably attracted to you in the first place. By rubbin' it up against her, it's sort of a "Look what you just did" type thing. A girl will feel good knowing she just got you hard. Being the tease that most girls are, they'll probably grind a little harder.
 

familyguyfan

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Originally posted by Vincent
It depends upon the relationship with the girl. If it's a girl you've dated before then she'll probably be ok with it, but if it's a girl that you're with for the first time you may want to back off.
Hmm. Well, I'm going to prom with this girl, and I've never really hung out with her one-on-one, but I have hung out with her before. So we're friends, but we're not good enough friends that something like that would be awkward, and we're not "going to prom as friends." So I guess it will probably be okay, but I'll have to see how the night is going before we start dancing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dont get a boner, just dont react, imagine that you have your little kid brother or something in your lap, which is why the pressure is there. Its both the manual stimulation and the mental picture of what it will lead to that give you a hard on. Try and remove the second as its harder for her to see she is having an effect on you.
 

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Originally posted by JSH
dont get a boner, just dont react, imagine that you have your little kid brother or something in your lap, which is why the pressure is there. Its both the manual stimulation and the mental picture of what it will lead to that give you a hard on. Try and remove the second as its harder for her to see she is having an effect on you.

Why would you do that though? Grinding is supposed to be pleasureful. By taking out the pleasure factor, it's pointless. That's like imagining your mom while you're having sex. It "numbs you" and you rob yourself of the pleasure aspect of the whole thing.
 

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AdrenalynJunkee has a very, very good point.
 

paraguayandj

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bytches love 'em bones
 

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it realy boils down to the relationship that you have with the girl
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AdrenalynJunkee

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Originally posted by chill
it realy boils down to the relationship that you have with the girl
Indeed. Chances are though, if you're grinding with a girl, the "I like the way you look" relationship has already been established lol
 
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