"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Grinding (thought this could use its own thread)

When you get a boner while grinding:

  • Back off a little

    Votes: 6 18.2%
  • Keep on grinding and let her feel it

    Votes: 27 81.8%

  • Total voters
    33

familyguyfan

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I know there are a lot of threads on dancing, but I thought this could use it's own one, because a lot of people seem to disagree on what to do in this situation.

When you are grinding with a girl and you get a boner, do you back off a little bit or just keep going with it? Answer in the poll.

I thought this thread would be good to get a good idea of what most people think you should do in these situations.

Personally, I've always thought you were supposed to back off until I came on here and saw a lot of people saying the opposite.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Vincent

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It depends upon the relationship with the girl. If it's a girl you've dated before then she'll probably be ok with it, but if it's a girl that you're with for the first time you may want to back off.
 

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Trusts me girls like the feel, it makes them very horny infact. If the girl is mature and not some kimmature brat she wont mind.
This has happen to me once. My second in command got a little frisky and decided to do some jumping jacks. And it started to grind up on her. She could feel it as she looked at me in a chheky way and smiled, then she proceeded to grind even harder lol.
So i will vote yes.
 

AdrenalynJunkee

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I agree. If you're grinding with a girl, she's probably attracted to you in the first place. By rubbin' it up against her, it's sort of a "Look what you just did" type thing. A girl will feel good knowing she just got you hard. Being the tease that most girls are, they'll probably grind a little harder.
 

familyguyfan

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Originally posted by Vincent
It depends upon the relationship with the girl. If it's a girl you've dated before then she'll probably be ok with it, but if it's a girl that you're with for the first time you may want to back off.
Hmm. Well, I'm going to prom with this girl, and I've never really hung out with her one-on-one, but I have hung out with her before. So we're friends, but we're not good enough friends that something like that would be awkward, and we're not "going to prom as friends." So I guess it will probably be okay, but I'll have to see how the night is going before we start dancing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JSH

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dont get a boner, just dont react, imagine that you have your little kid brother or something in your lap, which is why the pressure is there. Its both the manual stimulation and the mental picture of what it will lead to that give you a hard on. Try and remove the second as its harder for her to see she is having an effect on you.
 

AdrenalynJunkee

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Originally posted by JSH
dont get a boner, just dont react, imagine that you have your little kid brother or something in your lap, which is why the pressure is there. Its both the manual stimulation and the mental picture of what it will lead to that give you a hard on. Try and remove the second as its harder for her to see she is having an effect on you.

Why would you do that though? Grinding is supposed to be pleasureful. By taking out the pleasure factor, it's pointless. That's like imagining your mom while you're having sex. It "numbs you" and you rob yourself of the pleasure aspect of the whole thing.
 

DJoneday

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AdrenalynJunkee has a very, very good point.
 

paraguayandj

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bytches love 'em bones
 

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it realy boils down to the relationship that you have with the girl
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AdrenalynJunkee

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Originally posted by chill
it realy boils down to the relationship that you have with the girl
Indeed. Chances are though, if you're grinding with a girl, the "I like the way you look" relationship has already been established lol
 
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