Gril breaks LTR up through a letter????

[Immaculate]

My friend just called me asking for advice... he's been seeing this girl exclusively for over a year.

He gets off work last night and she leaves a letter on his car saying "we should go our seperate ways but if you want to talk you can call me"...or something like that.

WTF? How could a woman break up with a guy like this and not face to face? That's low in my opinion.

My friend needs advice what to do.. he says he's not goign to call her because of the simple fact she didn't have the balls to tell him to his face.. what kind of woman would do this? Should he call her?

 

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Originally posted by Immaculate

WTF? How could a woman break up with a guy like this and not face to face? That's low in my opinion.

Why is this some big surprise? shes a chick for goodness sakes, she doesnt have the luxury of courage and straight talk you take for granted.

Your friend shouldnt be calling her anyway even if she did call it off to his face, its over.

 

[Tyron]

yep it's over, and talking only makes it worse. Just say him to accept things as they are and move on.

 

[SparkleMotion]

I've had girlfriends do worse things, such as when I tried to call my gf her friends answered and preceeded to tell me that the relationship was over and blah blah blah.

It's a woman, they are mentally handicapped. Tell him not to think about it and just move on. Be a good friend and make he sure goes out and gets at least 10 numbers this weekend.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Basically, the woman is "conflict avoidance" - she doesn't want to get too emotional nor does she want to get any communication from the guy's part. To me that is very weak and poor form of communication. Be thankful he got dumped this way, Given my experience with conflict avoidance type of people I'd honestly would never trust a person that is all passive/shy about things.

Tell your bud it's pretty much over and move on, don't contact her. He'll probably be very bitter about this, he needs your support totally - take him out for some drinks and strip bars if you can. He should be thankful he has a bud he can count on, that's you.

 

[penkitten]

shes afraid of confrontation.
didnt know how to utter a break up from her own mouth.
sheesh , shes new at this and doesnt want to see him hurt so she wrote the letter.
explain to your friend that she really is a good girl not trying to break his heart, however has made her decision to break up with him and he should not call her.
chances are she will miss him and start calling him again.

 

[Jizz]

This gal i know, had a simular situation

Shes in a LTR for about 8 months or so, he has taken her virginity and she is in love with him, and he apparently loves her

He tells her they have to talk less coz he has important exams coming up, they hardly speak for about 4 weeks or so, she is really upset and down about it and hears a rumour that he had got with an ex of his at a skool party!

Then out of the blue, she gets given a letter at school from one of his other exs who lives next door to the bf, the letter goes on how they should break up and stuff! includes classic quotes such as "Right people, wrong time" She wasnt happy at all!

Then after about 2 months or so when were getting really close (me and this gal) she randomly recieves a text from him saying "I still think about those times in your bedroom" Needless to say she wasnt exactly happy!

Shes a cool gal and i really felt sorry for her at the time, so much so that i gave instead of recieved the night she got that text!

 

[wowiehowie]

Yeah, as difficult as it is, tell your Bud not to call or EVER contact her again. Sure it's gonna be very painful for awhile, but tell him not to give her the courtesy that she obviously didn't give him.

 

[Marlimus]

that's just how women are. Many women don't do break-ups face to face if they can help it. its the way it is.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Is the girl 24? That is the magic break-up age.

 

[lebRambo]

hey man. Compared to the sh*t I know some girls to be capable of when breaking up, a letter is pretty damn thoughtful! How about a year and 3 months relationship being ended by an SMS! A f*cking SMS!

 

[frivolousz21]

he prolly centered his life around her.


and she knew he would be crushed

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by lebRambo
hey man. Compared to the sh*t I know some girls to be capable of when breaking up, a letter is pretty damn thoughtful! How about a year and 3 months relationship being ended by an SMS! A f*cking SMS!

What the hell is an SMS??

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
Is the girl 24? That is the magic break-up age.

Nope she is the 26'er. We've decided to kidnap her and throw her in the river.

just kidding!

 

[lebRambo]

Originally posted by Immaculate
What the hell is an SMS??

....a text message? thats what they are called, SMS. it stands for Simple Messaging System. Its the network protocol that converts text into a bytestream, send through the air, then converts it back into text at someone else's phone.

how could you not know that? what do you call them in the states, just text messages?

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by lebRambo
....a text message? thats what they are called, SMS. it stands for Simple Messaging System. Its the network protocol that converts text into a bytestream, send through the air, then converts it back into text at someone else's phone.

how could you not know that? what do you call them in the states, just text messages?

yeah text haven't heard anybody use the term SMS.

Hey I thought only AMerican girls were b!tches... Australian ones are too??

 

[Warrior Princess]

Terrible...

Tell your friend not to contact her. She will eventually wonder why he hasn't called or is wondering what's on his mind. If she calls, ignore her.

My sympathy goes to your friend (or are you your friend? either way sorry to hear)


Meg

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by Warrior Princess
Terrible...

Tell your friend not to contact her. She will eventually wonder why he hasn't called or is wondering what's on his mind. If she calls, ignore her.

My sympathy goes to your friend (or are you your friend? either way sorry to hear)


Meg

Eventually he is gonna crack and call her to find out WTF happened... the question is should he call sooner or later.

 

[frivolousz21]

he has to know what has happened.

unless he is blind

 

[lebRambo]

self-control in the face of this kinda thing is a motherf*cker. I forced myself not to call my ex and was glad. She messaged me one night saying "I'm an idiot, don't know why we broke up, miss you blah blah blah" so i ignored the b*tch. haha! :crackup: