"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Grey Fox: Cold Approach Results.

Grey Fox

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I though this might be a bit educational and inspirational. So I'll post this for review and advice on what I did right and wrong.

So here goes, I had a bussiness engagement that got shifted back and I am now able to attend this formal event with a few colleagues. But here's the rub, its this saturday. I know what your thinking, something like this needs more planning. Well I saw it as a challenge and a test.
So I saw this girl I knew from around the place I live, she seems cool enough. So I straight up just walk over say Hey and ask her out, making direct eye contact and spoke in a confident tone. She said that she would check her schedule because she might be house hunting that weekend but thanked me for the invite with what appeared to be genuine interest and a smile and let me know when I call her, and she tossed me her digits. Obiviously this is a low to medium response despite getting the digits, which were not fake. Why you ask because after learning from this place I can just tell. Now I did call the girl but she wasn't at home, but her roomie was and I gave a message for her to take.
Now I know you're going to say, Grey Fox you should always, always aviod messages and get in direct contact with the girl. I absolutely agree with that, but I also carried out on what some here have the trouble of doing, I got a backup numbers. They are backup numbers because they are more than willing to go and just as good looking. So I can afford to bend the rules this time because I have backups and now I can test for interest level by seeing if the first girl calls back. While girls 2,3 and 4 are all more than happy to go out with me.
I thought I share this so if any of you who are cold approach specialist might comment on what makes your approaches successful and any recommendations on improvement as I am always looking to continue refining my cold approach skill.

-Grey Fox
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Only confident DJ' can do what you did and have an "I don't care about the consequences" attitude! You have the right mindset.

Most guys here would be to timid to take such quick action and are unsure of themselves. Everyone must use their own style based on their personality!!!
 

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Post Game

I am the most moral man alive, the chick I went with wanted my **** real bad. She was cute and but a little nuts, and she had BF issues. But at the end of the night we were dry humping on the dance floor. She is sleeping in my bed now, but with all that I did not feel right closing the deal, not to mention the alcohol involved. But I knew I could have gone for a sex close if I even vaguely wanted it, but it wouldn't have been right. Thats it for this thread.

-Grey Fox
 

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Re: Post Game

Originally posted by Grey Fox
I am the most moral man alive, the chick I went with wanted my **** real bad. She was cute and but a little nuts, and she had BF issues. But at the end of the night we were dry humping on the dance floor. She is sleeping in my bed now, but with all that I did not feel right closing the deal, not to mention the alcohol involved. But I knew I could have gone for a sex close if I even vaguely wanted it, but it wouldn't have been right. I waited till the morning and we decided not to mess around due to BF issues I didn't want to deal with. Thats it for this thread.

-Grey Fox
 
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