Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Women are so stupid. What else is insecure? Clipping your fingernails? A real man has gnarly long nails, don't you know?zekko said:I've heard some women say that a guy who dyes his hair is insecure with himself, and it comes off as try hard. Obviously that's not something you want to project.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
In my case, my original natural color was very dark brown, nearly black. Anything I do toward that end of the spectrum is going to a pretty drastic change.Scaramouche said:I went back to my natural colour,it was either that or chase the Grey,and go for silver blonde......And yes I would echo poor old Jophils comments of being more attractive to girls....you look younger...as for spending a bundle,I buy the cheapest Womens brand in a store like your Walmart,I make a ten Dollar bottle last about six goes...you don't need much,takes about twenty minutes,during which I exercise...my advice is NOT to change colour radically...most of my friends didn't even notice any change,even one of my daughters didn't notice
I think their point is that it a feminine trait to fuss over their appearance, to dye their hair, to wear makeup, to paint their fingernails. I've heard women say they don't like guys who wear hair gel because it makes them look like they spend too much time on their hair.mrRuckus said:Women are so stupid. What else is insecure? Clipping your fingernails? A real man has gnarly long nails, don't you know?
For a people who meticulously worry about every single detail of their appearance on a near constant basis, they sure have weird ideas about how and why men do stuff.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.