Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Women are so stupid. What else is insecure? Clipping your fingernails? A real man has gnarly long nails, don't you know?zekko said:I've heard some women say that a guy who dyes his hair is insecure with himself, and it comes off as try hard. Obviously that's not something you want to project.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
In my case, my original natural color was very dark brown, nearly black. Anything I do toward that end of the spectrum is going to a pretty drastic change.Scaramouche said:I went back to my natural colour,it was either that or chase the Grey,and go for silver blonde......And yes I would echo poor old Jophils comments of being more attractive to girls....you look younger...as for spending a bundle,I buy the cheapest Womens brand in a store like your Walmart,I make a ten Dollar bottle last about six goes...you don't need much,takes about twenty minutes,during which I exercise...my advice is NOT to change colour radically...most of my friends didn't even notice any change,even one of my daughters didn't notice
I think their point is that it a feminine trait to fuss over their appearance, to dye their hair, to wear makeup, to paint their fingernails. I've heard women say they don't like guys who wear hair gel because it makes them look like they spend too much time on their hair.mrRuckus said:Women are so stupid. What else is insecure? Clipping your fingernails? A real man has gnarly long nails, don't you know?
For a people who meticulously worry about every single detail of their appearance on a near constant basis, they sure have weird ideas about how and why men do stuff.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.