TempestNight
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What are some great and original second date ideas you guys have had besides the usual dinner, bowling, etc?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Great second date ideas?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonJuan_DeRosco
Don Juan
Comedy clubs!
But really I try and fit 2 or 3 locations/activities per date.
But really I try and fit 2 or 3 locations/activities per date.
TempestNight
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Such as?DonJuan_DeRosco said:Comedy clubs!
But really I try and fit 2 or 3 locations/activities per date.
TempestNight
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Tried searching through articles and tips, there isn't really much on it. There's mention of mini cart, amusement park, etc, but you can't do any of those in this winter season.
So any inputs from anyone?
So any inputs from anyone?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Audiophile
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What do you like doing? Dancing? Listening to live music? Bring her in your world and do something fun, or just grab some drinks and bring her back like runner said.
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This is after 2nd date but me and my old girlfriend used to go to a local arcade and just mess around on the games there.
Bearing in mind we were both 17 at the time though.
We'd start with bowling, then we'd do quasar, then move on to the games that didn't need booking in advance, pool, air hockey, interactive racing games like those skiing things you stand on, those electrick pole things you had to hold for as long as possible.
It cost a fair amount of money I have to say but once I'd paid for the first few things she would insist on chipping in.
And it was a lot of fun just messing around playing games and chatting, real ice breakers.
We used to do that quite a lot. Anyone know if that stuff would still work? (I'm 21)
Bearing in mind we were both 17 at the time though.
We'd start with bowling, then we'd do quasar, then move on to the games that didn't need booking in advance, pool, air hockey, interactive racing games like those skiing things you stand on, those electrick pole things you had to hold for as long as possible.
It cost a fair amount of money I have to say but once I'd paid for the first few things she would insist on chipping in.
And it was a lot of fun just messing around playing games and chatting, real ice breakers.
We used to do that quite a lot. Anyone know if that stuff would still work? (I'm 21)