"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Great, on my first date, and just have to run into my friends!

NismoAwan

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I was just wondering, say I was out on a date with a girl, and I just happened to run into my friends. Of course, I have to introduce her to them, what would be the best thing to say. I know for sure that I don't want to say "This is my friend, Jen."


Basically, what I am saying is, What is the best way to introduce a woman that your dating, but not in a relationship with?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NismoAwan

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I knew someone was going to say that, but no, there is no Jen, I just put that name in there so it wouldnt be "Hi, this is my friend, hername.
 

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Originally posted by NismoAwan
I was just wondering, say I was out on a date with a girl, and I just happened to run into my friends. Of course, I have to introduce her to them, what would be the best thing to say. I know for sure that I don't want to say "This is my friend, Jen."


Basically, what I am saying is, What is the best way to introduce a woman that your dating, but not in a relationship with?
serious case of AFC over thinking a small situatution
 

diplomatic_lie

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"This is the girl I'm gonna f*ck tonight".
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RoeCyris

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"this is the cutie i told you about...."

turn to her

"whats your name again?"

and then later tell her you were joking. say you remembered her name but that she wasnt the cutie you told your friends about.
 

bud_2005

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Seriously, some of you on this site have to think for yourselves every once in awhile. Do you really have to come on these boards for very little things like this?
 

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Just a side note. Running into your friends can be the best thing as then you come with instance "refferences on your resume" as she sees you are not some lonely creep.
 

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definently a good thing..

i'd say, keep the meeting short and sweet.
don't let it slide into awkwardness.

and when Mr. Mystery II said "this is jen" he was doing the same thing as you.
rather then "this is my friend, jen" "this is jen" doesn't give her a label as a friend..
its going to be fairly obvious what ur intentions with her are you're friends aren't that stupid..
she can't pull some **** like "why did u say i was ur friend instead of..... whatever" girls do stupid **** alot..

"this is jen" or "this is sally" or whatever is perfect..

- note : don't call jen, sally.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Re: Re: Great, on my first date, and just have to run into my friends!

Originally posted by Agressor
serious case overthinking a small situatution
"Hey, this is ****". Plus it's instant social proof.
 

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The best response is the first one you received. Just introduce a girl and dont add friend at the end. i.e. "This is Skanky McSpreadlegs"
 
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