SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Alright so I could use some help. I'm pretty sure I know what went wrong, and I have some idea about how I'll go about trying to fix it, but feedback will be good.
So, met this girl shortly before Christmas pretty randomly at University. From the beginning she was showing pretty strong interest, and I got the number no problem, as well as email (MSN). Aside from a brief chat after adding her on msn which she initated we didn't talk or hang out for the next 2-3 weeks because she was off on some trip for the holidays and I was busy with that girl who was only around temporarily (who I posted about not too long ago).
Anyway, when she comes back we make plans to meet up, which end up falling through by no fault of ours, though I suggest an alternative meet up a few days later that's well received. In the few days before that we have one or two quick, fun chats online, but nothing too serious.
Now, the date itself went well, we had fun, got some pretty heavy making out in, but I had to finish up sort of early. When dropping her off she said she had tons of fun and wanted to do it again, and I could tell it was sincere.
Now here's the part where I started messing up. After that date the next day I saw her on msn and thought I'd quickly hit her up to set up the next date ( I know I know bad call... what can you do it's done already). She was still interested enough to agree, and in fact suggested next Friday. However that would have been inconvenient for me so I asked to switch that to the preceding Monday.
Anyway long story short I do really like her, and despite my better judgement since then I've been chatting with her pretty regularly. I've noticed that she no longer initiates the conversations and doesn't have quite as much interest in them anymore. Also, she had to cancel our date today because she was sick, which from what I know may or may not be true. To be fair she did give me warning yesterday that she wasn't feeling well so at least it wasn't a last minute flake or standup. So, in other words, I've been too available, eager.
Realizing this, my approach so far has been to seem unaffected when she cancelled, in fact I said something along the lines of "Ok good, because something has come up and I didnt want to bail on you but I wasn't sure how I'd find time for everythign today anyway", and have not made any mention of rescheduling.
I'm also planning on not to her for at least 3-4 days, then calling just to set another date, no chit chat.
I am seeing some other girls in the mean time but she's currently the cream of the crop so I want to not drive her away.
Thoughts/tips/suggestions?
PS: She's rather hot and obviously accustomed to guys buying her things. What's the proper way to handle this on dates without coming across as cheap. I usually pay for first dates anyway if I ask them out (usually we don't do anything particularly pricey anyway), but it's always nice of them to at least make a gesture of offering to pay.
So, met this girl shortly before Christmas pretty randomly at University. From the beginning she was showing pretty strong interest, and I got the number no problem, as well as email (MSN). Aside from a brief chat after adding her on msn which she initated we didn't talk or hang out for the next 2-3 weeks because she was off on some trip for the holidays and I was busy with that girl who was only around temporarily (who I posted about not too long ago).
Anyway, when she comes back we make plans to meet up, which end up falling through by no fault of ours, though I suggest an alternative meet up a few days later that's well received. In the few days before that we have one or two quick, fun chats online, but nothing too serious.
Now, the date itself went well, we had fun, got some pretty heavy making out in, but I had to finish up sort of early. When dropping her off she said she had tons of fun and wanted to do it again, and I could tell it was sincere.
Now here's the part where I started messing up. After that date the next day I saw her on msn and thought I'd quickly hit her up to set up the next date ( I know I know bad call... what can you do it's done already). She was still interested enough to agree, and in fact suggested next Friday. However that would have been inconvenient for me so I asked to switch that to the preceding Monday.
Anyway long story short I do really like her, and despite my better judgement since then I've been chatting with her pretty regularly. I've noticed that she no longer initiates the conversations and doesn't have quite as much interest in them anymore. Also, she had to cancel our date today because she was sick, which from what I know may or may not be true. To be fair she did give me warning yesterday that she wasn't feeling well so at least it wasn't a last minute flake or standup. So, in other words, I've been too available, eager.
Realizing this, my approach so far has been to seem unaffected when she cancelled, in fact I said something along the lines of "Ok good, because something has come up and I didnt want to bail on you but I wasn't sure how I'd find time for everythign today anyway", and have not made any mention of rescheduling.
I'm also planning on not to her for at least 3-4 days, then calling just to set another date, no chit chat.
I am seeing some other girls in the mean time but she's currently the cream of the crop so I want to not drive her away.
Thoughts/tips/suggestions?
PS: She's rather hot and obviously accustomed to guys buying her things. What's the proper way to handle this on dates without coming across as cheap. I usually pay for first dates anyway if I ask them out (usually we don't do anything particularly pricey anyway), but it's always nice of them to at least make a gesture of offering to pay.