Great girl....but...

[Reykhel]

Reykhel never posts looking for advice and he doesn't want any here neither......just your observations and "readings"

This is a great girl....a few months in.....a little shorter than I love but only complaint physically .....

...high interest in old Reykhel and he likes that as he don't have to go searching and ****e.....everything is on key and smooth except one thing and I wonder am I being picky....

...she likes to jump to gun to a future event pretty fast....don't get me wrong, the girl ain't going for marriage....let's say we are having dinner.....she's taking about dessert......

...let's say we're watching a movie.....she's anticipating the next one we can watch together ..............get what I mean? nothing huge....but irritating....

Reykhel says enjoy the moment girl.......and yes he did say it to her and the girl says she "worry"

 

[17 shots]

She just likes you a lot. Instead of being annoyed by it, try to have a sense of pride about it

 

[lizardking82]

She is feeling spoiled. That is always a good thing and I think you know that already.

 

[sazc]

From her perspective, she is thinking towards the future, which means she is interested and invested.
However, from his perspective, he is an in-the-moment kind of guy, and finds it irritating when people plan too much.
She may also be fishing to see if you are invested, by trying to see how you respond.

There's nothing wrong with either character type, but compatibility works best if you find someone like minded. lol, we never do that tho, we prefer the struggle of changing someone.

Anywhoo - The question is - does he only find it irritating with this female? Or is this a trait with every person in his life?
Is this mindset selective to one, or random females? Or does he behave like this with his buddies as well, when they try to lock him down for theoretical future events?

If this only comes out every so often with random people, you're probably not that into her and you prefer keeping your options open and your calendar clear to see if something else, more appealing, falls into your lap/life.

If this is who you are in general, it's probably more a compatibility issue between you and she. It's who you are and you are not going to change. You need to find people who can respect that character trait. You can always explain to her that you are not someone who muses about the future and would appreciate it if she cold stop, and see how she responds to that. Does she respect that about you (respects who you are) or does she complain (more interested in getting what she wants)

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I think it’s the anxiety/excitement/‘tingles’ you make her feel (which is good obviously), coupled with the need for the next dopamine rush of having to know “what’s next”.