"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Soshyopathe

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I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Giovanni Casanova

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One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
agreed. well said.
 

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Originally posted by Soshyopathe
I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
Have you forgotten how things work in the Mod's Corner already?
 

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Yeah.
Enlighten us, please. :)
 

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Did this guy Bashful get banned or he just shrunk into minute pieces and never came back?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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