"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
agreed. well said.
 

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Originally posted by Soshyopathe
I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
Have you forgotten how things work in the Mod's Corner already?
 

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Yeah.
Enlighten us, please. :)
 

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Did this guy Bashful get banned or he just shrunk into minute pieces and never came back?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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