"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great Ban, Allen

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I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
One thing that I used to always think was great about this forum was that the mods here didn't go around banning people for minor offenses. There have been some users (SIXPAQ springs to mind) who have been banned for good reason, but I have always admired the way that people with controvertial viewpoints and messages weren't reflexively banned. I've been on plenty of forums (fori?) where that has been the case, and have found their quality to be lacking. It's one of the reasons I've stayed here as long as I have.

Particularly on the new VB forum, I feel that banning someone should really be a last resort. If a poster is annoying to you, or they have nothing of value to say as far as your concerned, or they are offensive or abusive to you... you can just put them on your "Ignore List". That's what I did with livin' large. I understand that he continues to make remarks about/toward me, but I don't have to look at them.

Since I've gotten a girlfriend, my use for this site has been reduced to the occasional piece of advice for a poster or posting in "Anything Else", which I enjoyed doing because some very intelligent people post there. However, lately its quality has been declining... and this ban did not help my opinion.
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agreed. well said.
 
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Originally posted by Soshyopathe
I appreciate your ban of Rebelde para Siempre.

Just curious as to what your guidelines are for a ban?
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Have you forgotten how things work in the Mod's Corner already?
 
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Yeah.
Enlighten us, please. :)
 
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Did this guy Bashful get banned or he just shrunk into minute pieces and never came back?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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