"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grand Cardone any thoughts?

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Read most of his books like him over all but would never attend his live events.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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He's totally about Leverage, which I can't stomach. The question is...where was he post-collapse 2008? He's only popular now because these are flush lush times. I can't stomach going to the bank much and leveraging purchases of over-valued over-priced homes. RE investing is Very difficult right now, you have to be smart AF.
 

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He'a a jabron; and a lucky one at that. Doesn't take much luck or risk to buy at the bottom of the market. However, he's leveraged at 90%. So, he says he has around 500 million in real estate, but only owns around 5 million (90% leveraged). He also lives quite high with a private jet, travel, shows, material stuff and an expensive "model" wife to support. We'll see how he handles the next downturn. IMO, he's way overleveraged; but what do I know. If he's able to survive it, kudos to him, but seems quite risky. I think @BeExcellent is a real estate investor. She'd be a better person to ask. I just work with animals. ;'p
 

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Hmmmm. I don’t know the guy. Will have to read up.

Here’s what I do know. Leverage is a very sharp double edged sword. People who live flashy like that will always be around. 90% is foolishly over leveraged in my view. But everything has its pros & cons.

An advantage of high leverage if the loans are backed by real property is that the lender gets the asset if the buyer can’t pay.

But if you watch the movie “The Big Short” you’ll see that macro influences can be ruinous too.

In every endeavor and in every strategy there exists risk. High equity? High liability exposure. High leverage? High market risk exposure of various types. So on the one hand you pick your poison. On the other hand few people in my view are doing the sort of risk analysis required to determine what acceptable risk is TO THEM. Flipping has risk. Holding has risk. Getting in your car to go to work has risk. Life is hazardous and there is only so much you can do about that.

Flashy gurus are selling the potential for an extravagant life. It’s very seductive and many are seeking that high life so there will always be people paying to chase that dream, most of whom never do anything.

So the income stream is as much or more from selling luxury or the illusion of it moreso than quality investing.

You want to make money with high leverage? Get into leveraged buyouts. That creates billionaires. Quiet billionaires often. Smart money is typically quiet money although trappings of wealth are perfectly fine if one has a taste for the finer things. But leveraged buyouts require very sophisticated financial skill. The average person is woefully ill equipped to succeed in that way. So you aren’t going to see seminars for that sort of thing offered to the general public. Rather that is the purview of the sophisticated investor with at least 7 figures of free capital available to put at risk...not something your average working stiff can do.

There are other means of course. But you need to be strategic, smart and shrewd.

Many of you here are to young to recall the 1980s. Swashbuckling high rollers up to their eyeballs in leverage. I personally knew people whose parents killed themselves after real estate crashed in the 80s. Leverage ruined many many people. So don’t get swept up in the glamour.

There are always mechanisms to make serious money. All require some level of knowledge and work ethic to last. Easy come easy go is alluring & seductive.

Be very careful.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Awesome feedback surprised no one mentioned he's a scientologist
 

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Can’t knock him. I’ve listened to a few of his audiobooks. He’s repetitive and a little insane. Somehow it works for him though.
True, but not sustainable. Real Estate investing is not easy nor a game. It's fine when things are stagnant or going up. The true players and masters show their cards in the downturn.
 

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^^ I read RE books from those who are younger than me and are being realistic with me, practical. Biggerpockets.com is a good source of RE info. Income is easy to nail down. The Expenses is where most get swallowed whole. They don't realize certain expenses and thus think the deal they're staring at is "good."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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^^ I read RE books from those who are younger than me and are being realistic with me, practical. Biggerpockets.com is a good source of RE info. Income is easy to nail down. The Expenses is where most get swallowed whole. They don't realize certain expenses and thus think the deal they're staring at is "good."
Seems newbies who are green are not really in the bigger pockets category. More like smaller pockets.. LoL.
 
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