"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Along with many of you, I'm now officially out of high school. The university scene is what we have to look forward to now, which is completely different than high school. Which brings me to my point - we should have a college forum. We should have a college forum. NDJ make it happen?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Will take it up with Allen. Remember that we will probably still remain here even if there is no college forum, thus the HS forum will sort of become a college forum too.
 

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Proposal was rejected. There is simply not enough users here in the appropriate age in order to make such a big step as to make a new forum for it. Also there was seen little need for such a forum.
 

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:( That's too bad. In my opinion college gaming will be a lot different, cause you interact a lot with a big group of people, also from other schools, you go live somewhere without your parents, so you have more privacy and possibilities to go out, and reputation becomes less important...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LearningSlowly

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NorwegianDJ said:
More important.
Umm probs not at my 30,000 person university. Random girl at party will have NO idea what my reputation is. (Even so, I'll have a good reputation). Reputation at my 400 person high school was everything, everyone knew you.

I've thought about this too. I'm not sure if I'll stay on sosuave. Maybe I'll drop in now and again, but I'm probably going to be looking for a college game forum.
 

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Yeah I'm graduating too this year man... I might leave for another forum too but I'll come back here from time to time. But let's not forget the bootcamp!
 

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You guys really should read Conquer Your Campus and HPRJ's journal. Reputation in university is a beast in which you can make work for you to levels not even possible in high school. Think about it. If you make it work for you since day 1, youve got 4 years to build a social empire. Reputation has greater potential in uni.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AlexLefty

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LearningSlowly said:
Umm probs not at my 30,000 person university. Random girl at party will have NO idea what my reputation is. (Even so, I'll have a good reputation). Reputation at my 400 person high school was everything, everyone knew you.

I've thought about this too. I'm not sure if I'll stay on sosuave. Maybe I'll drop in now and again, but I'm probably going to be looking for a college game forum.
Agreed.
Being the alpha of your crew is important, but as a whole...less important than hs. That being said however, the perfect 10s will go for those who have status because of a sports team or are the alpha of a frat etc...But overall, less important.

Also, let me know if you find a college gaming forum because I'll transfer with you.
 

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Coming at it from the other side, if you already have a bad reputation, in college its easier to find a whole new group that doesn't know about your old reputation and can accept you (might take a few tries though). In high school the "popular" group is easily identified and it tends to be exclusive, so reputation becomes very limiting.
 

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Coming at it from the other side, if you already have a bad reputation, in college its easier to find a whole new group that doesn't know about your old reputation and can accept you (might take a few tries though). In high school the "popular" group is easily identified and it tends to be exclusive, so reputation becomes very limiting.
True.

What it boils down to is there's thousands of kids at a university.

But only the hottest girls will go for those guys that have the most widespread reputation. EX: Sports team or frat alpha.

^This was also true in hs.

But now...

There's also other girls who are just as hot and even hotter, who can be pulled by guys like us.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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