Along with many of you, I'm now officially out of high school. The university scene is what we have to look forward to now, which is completely different than high school. Which brings me to my point - we should have a college forum. We should have a college forum. NDJ make it happen?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I think that would be awesome. Nice idea Lefty
NorwegianDJ
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Will take it up with Allen. Remember that we will probably still remain here even if there is no college forum, thus the HS forum will sort of become a college forum too.
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Proposal was rejected. There is simply not enough users here in the appropriate age in order to make such a big step as to make a new forum for it. Also there was seen little need for such a forum.
That's too bad. In my opinion college gaming will be a lot different, cause you interact a lot with a big group of people, also from other schools, you go live somewhere without your parents, so you have more privacy and possibilities to go out, and reputation becomes less important..."She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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More important.TheMusic said:
LearningSlowly
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Umm probs not at my 30,000 person university. Random girl at party will have NO idea what my reputation is. (Even so, I'll have a good reputation). Reputation at my 400 person high school was everything, everyone knew you.NorwegianDJ said:
I've thought about this too. I'm not sure if I'll stay on sosuave. Maybe I'll drop in now and again, but I'm probably going to be looking for a college game forum.
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You guys really should read Conquer Your Campus and HPRJ's journal. Reputation in university is a beast in which you can make work for you to levels not even possible in high school. Think about it. If you make it work for you since day 1, youve got 4 years to build a social empire. Reputation has greater potential in uni.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Agreed.LearningSlowly said:
Being the alpha of your crew is important, but as a whole...less important than hs. That being said however, the perfect 10s will go for those who have status because of a sports team or are the alpha of a frat etc...But overall, less important.
Also, let me know if you find a college gaming forum because I'll transfer with you.
LearningSlowly
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Coming at it from the other side, if you already have a bad reputation, in college its easier to find a whole new group that doesn't know about your old reputation and can accept you (might take a few tries though). In high school the "popular" group is easily identified and it tends to be exclusive, so reputation becomes very limiting.
Nino-Tk
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Damn, you guys are so fortunate...we only graduate in December here in South Africa.
True.LearningSlowly said:
What it boils down to is there's thousands of kids at a university.
But only the hottest girls will go for those guys that have the most widespread reputation. EX: Sports team or frat alpha.
^This was also true in hs.
But now...
There's also other girls who are just as hot and even hotter, who can be pulled by guys like us.
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A college forum would be sweet
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.