"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Grabbed Her Phone Number When She Asked About My Masonic Ring

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So I was at the mall today when a girl and her friend approached me in a store and asked me about my ring.

I smiled and said "I hate when that's the first question someone asks me"

Too which she asked why?

And I said "People sometimes mistake me for a mysterious person and that ring isn't something I discuss with everyone"

Then I asked her about a weird necklace she had and commented on the other ones dreadlocked hair.


I wasn't all to excited about getting their numbers. Two eights or nines maybe but I just wasn't feeling right today, had an off day and although my personality fluctuates this is an example of what I call "turning myself off" which actually has seemed to work with girls a lot.

I said, "off day, I don't feel like grabbing any numbers right now but I'll give you mine and let u two fight over it"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wow, its like you are so amazing you don't even have to try. Super models just go after you. You get a gold star. HA, giving them your number because you are so mysterious they will fight over it? Who are you mysterious stranger? It also doesn't surprise me your name is Dante.
 

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SuSHI said:
wow, its like you are so amazing you don't even have to try. Super models just go after you. You get a gold star. HA, giving them your number because you are so mysterious they will fight over it? Who are you mysterious stranger? It also doesn't surprise me your name is Dante.
I wouldn't consider myself mysterious, girls just think too much:up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Are you worthy and well-qualified?
 

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I was speaking "Masonic slang"...I thought as a guy wearing a Masonic ring, you too would be a Mason, and know what I was talking about.

You are a Mason, aren't you?
 

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Dude, I was being sarcastic. I think most male jewelry makes you look like a dirty strip club owner. I don't see the reason for your "giving them your number" and not caring about the whole deal, yet go out of your way to retell us this story.

A common symptom of some of the people on this forum is they love to show off, by making themselves seem like such the Alpha male that they wish they were. But if you think about it, people with inner confidence never show off. Not even passively through the retelling of a story.

Which leaves me to think, did they even ask for your number? Or were you just too scared to ask for theirs and left yours instead. This is not meant to be an attack on you, but I hate it when people try to subtly tell the world that they are "the sh!t", oh ahem...I mean a "mysterious person".
 

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SuSHI said:
Dude, I was being sarcastic. I think most male jewelry makes you look like a dirty strip club owner. I don't see the reason for your "giving them your number" and not caring about the whole deal, yet go out of your way to retell us this story.

A common symptom of some of the people on this forum is they love to show off, by making themselves seem like such the Alpha male that they wish they were. But if you think about it, people with inner confidence never show off. Not even passively through the retelling of a story.

Which leaves me to think, did they even ask for your number? Or were you just too scared to ask for theirs and left yours instead. This is not meant to be an attack on you, but I hate it when people try to subtly tell the world that they are "the sh!t", oh ahem...I mean a "mysterious person".
All the world is a mirror.

And all the hating you are doing on the OP only serves to further establish his superiority over you, for how else could it be?

Something about his tone bothers you. It reminds you of what you are not (confident, charming,etc.) and you are compelled to attack him. "You think you are more Alpha than me?! Fvck you!!" Pathetic.

I cannot go ANYWHERE without seeing guys like you hating on me. But, as crazy as it sounds, I have reached the point in my growth where I realize that the more haters I have, THE BETTER. I have done nothing to these strangers, but my mere existence reminds them of what they are not. And why should they work on improving themselves, when it's so much easier to rationalize their inferiority by hating on me. Again, pathetic.

Wake up and smell what you're really shoveling here.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This sounds like a really bad episode of "House"...

"Well I know you're not thinking that, because if you WERE thinking that, then you wouldn't have done it in the first place, but you DID, so that leads me to think that you ACTUALLY meant to do this, and because I am so incredibly amazing...." etc
 

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SuSHI said:
Dude, I was being sarcastic. I think most male jewelry makes you look like a dirty strip club owner. I don't see the reason for your "giving them your number" and not caring about the whole deal, yet go out of your way to retell us this story.

A common symptom of some of the people on this forum is they love to show off, by making themselves seem like such the Alpha male that they wish they were. But if you think about it, people with inner confidence never show off. Not even passively through the retelling of a story.

Which leaves me to think, did they even ask for your number? Or were you just too scared to ask for theirs and left yours instead. This is not meant to be an attack on you, but I hate it when people try to subtly tell the world that they are "the sh!t", oh ahem...I mean a "mysterious person".

Just a report, common practice around here.

Do you have a problem asking for a number or something?
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
I was speaking "Masonic slang"...I thought as a guy wearing a Masonic ring, you too would be a Mason, and know what I was talking about.

You are a Mason, aren't you?
I'm not, I'm close to being and I understand what your referring to. I'm not 18 for a few more months. How did I get the ring you might ask? :cool:
 

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Dante420 said:
Just a report, common practice around here.

Do you have a problem asking for a number or something?
how did you get that from what I wrote? I never give my number to a girl because it is useless.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SuSHI said:
how did you get that from what I wrote? I never give my number to a girl because it is useless.

You seemed quick to jump to a conclusion and although I don't know if this is the case, usually that indicates some level of insecurity.

I've been contacted plenty of times after giving my phone number out. That brings a few memories to mind, not to mention a girl who took down my number today and contacted me.
 
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