"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Gotta vent - Thinks im being used

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Ive been talking to this girl for 3 months now. She kept saying she wanted to hang out, I planned to go out to her, which I never do. They always come to me.

She cancelled twice on me and I ceased contact with her. I called her. Told her we needed to talk, we made up. Then it happened again. I cut of contact again because she wouldn't even come out to see me when I was willing to go see her.

Im getting pissed here. She has a birthday party in 2 weeks. If she doesnt invite me, im done forever. I feel like im being used, even though we talk to each other and tell each other alot of things.

Part of me is pissed at my self because I got game and I pick up girls easy. I feel like I needed someone to talk to, especially at night. She was just there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh man, you're fvcked.

You have to let this idiot broad dangle. Cut her off.

Which is more hurtful in the long-run? Her keeping you on her back burner whenever she needs a fix of attention, or you telling her to go fvck herself?

Which ending will give you confidence and set an example for your future?
 
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KarmaSutra said:
Oh man, you're fvcked.

You have to let this idiot broad dangle. Cut her off.

Which is more hurtful in the long-run? Her keeping you on her back burner whenever she needs a fix of attention, or you telling her to go fvck herself?

Which ending will give you confidence and set an example for your future?
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Thanks bro, love u too lol...

Seriousness, believe me I know. I have 2-3 girls to my house weekly. With this one, it became a habit to talk to her every night just bc I felt like I needed someone.

Its more then fix for attention, its a habit for both of us. I use her to a degree too when I need my fix, im guilty of it. At the same time, me and her together can run rooms, rule the world, easily.

Ive told her to f*ck her self before too. But yet we still keep talking. Its almost childish in a way for me to keep doing that every time she pissed me off, I feel like im running. Which isnt me.

She knows I wont take ****. Nor does she.

Im going to give it two weeks. If she doesn't invite me to her birthday party(yes i sound like im 5, lol), shes done with for good. Taken off Facebook and my phone. Thats it, she'll be just another one of my wh*res. Nothing special.
 
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This is why I like the 2strike rule. Less heart ache, unless in special circumstances. However, in your case your girl just sound like an AW.
 
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Um, why do you need someone to talk to at night?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Htienvu said:
This is why I like the 2strike rule. Less heart ache, unless in special circumstances. However, in your case your girl just sound like an AW.
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Exact rule I follow. Sometimes not that easy tho

Um, why do you need someone to talk to at night?
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I get bored. Plus like I said became a habit
 
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How do you know this girl? Is this one of those internet things where you spent 3 months chatting with a girl you never met?
 
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I fell right into the trap I know and I can see it. Now its time to get out. and lol at the jokes, keep em coming.
 
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KarmaSutra said:
Oh man, you're fvcked.

You have to let this idiot broad dangle. Cut her off.

Which is more hurtful in the long-run? Her keeping you on her back burner whenever she needs a fix of attention, or you telling her to go fvck herself?

Which ending will give you confidence and set an example for your future?
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i was going to reply but KS just said everything you need to do
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Danger said:
This is just another thread in the long list of reasons to choose self-respect over pvssy.
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Believe me I know bro. Like I said ive been having 2-3 girls over a week and im still not truly happy. It was something I needed to go through to realize certain things on my own.
 
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Why are you 'talking' (on the phone late at night) to a girl you're INTERESTED in about 'stuff'??? Are you trying to put yourself in the friend zone? You should be focusing on building attraction/interest...not talking about your 'feelings'. Poorly played my friend, poorly played.

Don't give up too much of yourself before theres even a relationship. Even if you have game, and get women..it sounds like you might have a slight case of oneitis for this one? You need to remain composed..especially when its hard. Getting too 'talky' about feelings and **** early in a relationship is BAAAAD.

Relationships should be FUN and INTERESTING in the very early stages. Sounds like you skipped a bunch of steps with this one. Always try to keep things light, fun and interesting for ATLEAST the first few months (3-6). And NEVER talk too much about feelings with a woman you're seeing/interested in unless she brings it up first. I realize NEVER is black and white, and things never are black and white...but you REALLY REALLY need to use discretion early in a relationship.

Sometimes less is more my friend.
 
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BadNews said:
Why are you 'talking' (on the phone late at night) to a girl you're INTERESTED in about 'stuff'??? Are you trying to put yourself in the friend zone? You should be focusing on building attraction/interest...not talking about your 'feelings'. Poorly played my friend, poorly played.

Don't give up too much of yourself before theres even a relationship. Even if you have game, and get women..it sounds like you might have a slight case of oneitis for this one? You need to remain composed..especially when its hard. Getting too 'talky' about feelings and **** early in a relationship is BAAAAD.

Relationships should be FUN and INTERESTING in the very early stages. Sounds like you skipped a bunch of steps with this one. Always try to keep things light, fun and interesting for ATLEAST the first few months (3-6). And NEVER talk too much about feelings with a woman you're seeing/interested in unless she brings it up first. I realize NEVER is black and white, and things never are black and white...but you REALLY REALLY need to use discretion early in a relationship.

Sometimes less is more my friend.
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You hit the nail on the head bro
 
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