"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Got two women...

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Hey Guys,

So there's a woman I've been seeing on and off for about 2 weeks; great face, fit/athletic body, good personality (Quirky - in a good way, but also a little shy)... really long term relationship material.

Only problem is a new woman just entered the scene,

This woman also has a gorgeous face, great body (curvy in the right places) and a really bright personality.

Both women are fine examples of girls with proper heads on their shoulders. Also, since I've always preferred relationships over short flings and all that meaningless crap I'm somewhat at a loss as to what to do.

First girl is into me, we get along great and i get all kinds of 'I'm interested,' signals. Second girl I haven't met as often but i get great vibes from her and she's always smiling and flirting and laughing at my jokes, even if they honestly suck! haha.

Now... I can't have both cause that would be cheating and I don't cheat.

This may come across as shallow and slightly egotistic but which one do I go for?!

Honestly, I think I'm more physically/sexually attracted to the second girl but when I'm with the first, things just feel right.

It's a really a weird position to be in, not something I'm all that familiar with either... hence the thread.

Also, I know if I ended up with the second, I'd be breaking the first girls heart - which sucks cause i hate seeing women cry.

Anyway, obviously not the standard PUA type thread but I'd appreciate some input.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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d!ckmojo said:
great problem to have dude~ better to have too many options that the alternative...
Haha, agreed!

Still, I just want the best outcome so i can move on with my life and continue to mature as a Don Juan.

Preferably while getting some great sex.
 

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Of course the first "feels right" compared to the second, you've been seeing her much longer. If you are looking for something long term with one or the other you should give the 2nd girl a fighting chance to catch up a little bit on the deeper side of things. If you are attracted physically to both girls than go with your gut, but don't don't let the 1st girls heartbreak be an influence.

The other option is to see which one will give you head in a public bathroom, then pick the other one so you don't get the herp.
 

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Two weeks isn't long enough to know if either are really LTR material. Keep dating both of them for as long as possible without getting exclusive.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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vwmaniac said:
Of course the first "feels right" compared to the second, you've been seeing her much longer. If you are looking for something long term with one or the other you should give the 2nd girl a fighting chance to catch up a little bit on the deeper side of things. If you are attracted physically to both girls than go with your gut, but don't don't let the 1st girls heartbreak be an influence.

The other option is to see which one will give you head in a public bathroom, then pick the other one so you don't get the herp.
Wow, you're right... Will keep this in mind, thanks
 
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