Got to be in it to win it

[Foe]

So about three weeks ago I was feeling pretty crap about dating and myself in general. I was getting rejected constantly by OLD and had nothing really interesting happening in the dating pool. Things were looking pretty bleak, I was second guessing myself wondering if I had past it and if I should settle etc etc.

Then random approach worked out, 4 matches that previously rejected me came good, two past flings reach out in the span of a week. Now I feel amazing, like the world is my oyster and my ego is back on track.

I put it down to persistency, I was thinking about getting off OLD and focusing on myself with a bit of a MGTOW attitude but Im glad I pushed through. So yeah I guess keep at it and things will eventually work out.........

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Women can't be the focus of a man's life, the scarcity mindset is just unattractive, screams optionless. Gotta respect the invisible hand behind supply and demand, let them know the product exists and deliver on the highest demand first.

Women are consumers, they are attracted to the thrill of the sale, it's no different when she's getting the attention of a guy with higher social status than her, how can you possibly get there when your just focused on her? Need a good product first.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Women can't be the focus of a man's life, the scarcity mindset is just unattractive, screams optionless. Gotta respect the invisible hand behind supply and demand, let them know the product exists and deliver on the highest demand first.

Women are consumers, they are attracted to the thrill of the sale, it's no different when she's getting the attention of a guy with higher social status than her, how can you possibly get there when your just focused on her? Need a good product first.

Why is it that I can get women when I’m single but they shun me when I’m seeing someone then?

 

[Bingo-Player]

So about three weeks ago I was feeling pretty crap about dating and myself in general. I was getting rejected constantly by OLD and had nothing really interesting happening in the dating pool. Things were looking pretty bleak, I was second guessing myself wondering if I had past it and if I should settle etc etc.

Then random approach worked out, 4 matches that previously rejected me came good, two past flings reach out in the span of a week. Now I feel amazing, like the world is my oyster and my ego is back on track.

I put it down to persistency, I was thinking about getting off OLD and focusing on myself with a bit of a MGTOW attitude but Im glad I pushed through. So yeah I guess keep at it and things will eventually work out.........

Yea we've all been there , rejections , ghosts , flakes , hot / old

very easy to become demoralised by it all

Then I find I will randomly have good positive interaction with a woman it will lift me up and get me back on track

mindset is absolutely everything in this day in age

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Why is it that I can get women when I’m single but they shun me when I’m seeing someone then?

Probably because you'll be around them drooling again when your single, scarcity

 

[SargeMaximus]

Probably because you'll be around them drooling again when your single, scarcity

I don’t drool

 

[The Duke]

Many times it's feast or famine. It's always been that way. Just ride the wave. Don't take it personal.

 

[Glassguy]

Many times it's feast or famine. It's always been that way. Just ride the wave. Don't take it personal.

I totally agree. I either have 15 chicks hitting me up, wanting to know when I am free, or the cupboard is bare and I am replinishing it.

Timing is everything in terms of dating. We run through cycles. I have learned that the more women I try to "date" or have in my rotation, the more I burn through potentially good companions because I just dont have the time to devote to one of them.

So now I still screen very well but I try to limit myself to 2-3 women who get some of my time. If I cant spend an evening a week with a woman that is interested in me, chances of them sticking around is slim. And that is when I go from 6 or 7 options to only 1 or 2.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

So about three weeks ago I was feeling pretty crap about dating and myself in general. I was getting rejected constantly by OLD and had nothing really interesting happening in the dating pool. Things were looking pretty bleak, I was second guessing myself wondering if I had past it and if I should settle etc etc.

Then random approach worked out, 4 matches that previously rejected me came good, two past flings reach out in the span of a week. Now I feel amazing, like the world is my oyster and my ego is back on track.

I put it down to persistency, I was thinking about getting off OLD and focusing on myself with a bit of a MGTOW attitude but Im glad I pushed through. So yeah I guess keep at it and things will eventually work out.........

Kudos on sticking to it but ideally these interactions don't go to your head or boost your ego at all. You are the mast that women cling to, the boulder that a woman's emotions crash against, neither rejection or acceptance should phase you. You've discovered that pu$$y is easy and bountiful with the right mindset, now you can become pickier and filter for exactly what you want.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Kudos on sticking to it but ideally these interactions don't go to your head or boost your ego at all. You are the mast that women cling to, the boulder that a woman's emotions crash against, neither rejection or acceptance should phase you. You've discovered that pu$$y is easy and bountiful with the right mindset, now you can become pickier and filter for exactly what you want.

Mindset is to psychology as symptom-based medical practice is to health. Only goes so far, you have to deal with root issues first. And nevermind real-world things such as LMS, charisma, game, etc.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Cause when you're in a relationship, you're not desperate for sex, you show it off by your actions, by not giving a fvck, by being an "a$shole", by not caring if a woman likes you or not, you have an aura of idgf, you start to exhibit qualities that turn women on.

That's why people are told to be direct, not giving a fvck, use amuse mastery, agree and amplify, c0cky and funny. Cause guys with sexual abundance that's how they act, where people fall short is using those tricks but not actually working in the background to become guys with an abundance mindset and confidence, they fake it but never make it and you can only fake things for so long until the mask comes out, and the needy, desperate for attention and validation seeking b!tch real you appears. That's the examples of PUAs

I think you need to read what I said again.

when I’m not desperate for sex, Women LOSE interest in me