"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Got thrown off Guard, need help

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I'll keep this short and hopefully easy to read.

I really like this girl. We went on two dates (ice skate and basketball) on 2 separate occasions over a period of 3 months. They both went really well. (yes, i have oneitis). We also bond well via kino.

Lately, Theres this guy who's been all over her. I'm not gonna lie, he looks better than me (not that it should matter much, right?). At first, i thought it was nothing cause i'm a pretty cool guy myself (DJ mind set). Today, the 3 of us were in the same scene and towards the end she starts saying crap out of no where.

"Hey precursor, can i step on you?"
"Your like my brother, i can do whatever i want to you"

This totally threw me off guard. I have no idea where the hell this came from. What the fk was she trying to do? Impress the other guy? In my mind, i already know the solution...

But i need you guys to help reinforce it. What do you guys think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Shocker

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That's fvcking bull****. I don't know why anyone would put up with that. Next time she says something like that say "go ahead, I'll just biatch slap you till you cry in retaliation." That's what this biatch deserves. What a hor.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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helll nahhh man...

thats some messed up ****.

don't do the same **** to her... just don't talk to her anymore

next time she does that... give her one of those half-smile "what? are you serious?" kind of face.

don't let it get to you in front of her... without words or angry expressions... make that b*itch know you two will never talk again after that night...

finish THAT night as best as you can... the most fun you can make it...

then next time she wants to go out you're going to decline with something like "nah i don't feel like it anymore"... she'll be the loser when she finds out she messed up for saying those to you.

if she ends up with him in the end... not your loss, it's better now than if she's WITH you.
 

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The Shocker and Michele, 'Arcangelo,

I want to give you guys major props for your advice. AFter making it clear I didn't like what she did, i told her i'm done taking her crap and i'm not talking to her anymore. I walked away. She follows me and her face is really depressed, and she apologizes. I walked away.

I had the most fun i could the rest of the day at school.

Afterschool, we are in the same club. I completely ignore her. She is still depressed (about me, i assume). Towards the end as we were about to be dismissed, she walks up to me. I look to notice she walks up, and then i walk away from her. She follows, and gives a very sincere apology. I reply with "I need some time away from you" and i walk away, once again.

With her, i forgot what i aspired to be. To live like a DJ. It feels good to be back on track. As for my her, i still like her. But i don't need her. That feeling is gone. THank you!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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