"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Hey Rhizzle,
Well thank you for your email, it certainly was nice. Yes, I ski as much as I can. As wierd as it sounds, I was actually on the ski team in high school!
Well I hope you have a great week, thanks again!"
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I'd sent this girl, and several others an email yesterday. I get a VERY low response rate to my emails on there.

I didn't ask a lot of questions in the email, so she basically did answer the ones I asked in her reply.

Is this a pity reply, or does she maybe just not know how to respond properly and carry a conversation?

I emailed her yesterday around lunch. She replyed last evening around 10.

Should I write this chick back now, or write her off?

Seems weird to "thank" someone for emailing in this fashion.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First mistake you're making is worring too much about it. Just have fun contacting people and keep it light. Be hard to get too!

Are you hoping for a particular outcome?
 

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Well, I've had VERY minimal luck with match. Like, a ridiculously low response rate.

However, people tell me I'm an attractive guy and I know I have everything else in order.

I guess my point is, it just seems like a retarded response.

I expect people to either say, thanks for writing, but I don't think we're a good match, which I've gotten like twice, or to reply and answer my questions and ask a couple questions herself, and say, talk to ya later.

So, it just seemed dumb.
 

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Maybe you come across as being too serious?

She talked about being on the ski team so I'd say something like "you were on the ski team but did you win anything? ;)".

What did the email you sent (to everybody) say?
 

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DUDE

u posted your pic on sosuave before on another thread, and you are pretty ugly, u gotta get that fixed up with fashion gym and a good hairtcut first before u expect girls to want you IN ANY MEDIUM, including online'

girls wont reply to guys who they dont think are hot
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AFC,
Dude, I've taken more pics, and I've been told that the old ones did me NO justice, and the new ones were MUCH better, and I have since removed the bad ones and put up the new ones.
 

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lets see the new pics

the #1 reason that guys get a low reply rate online is because the girls dont like what they are looking it
 

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FYI, I have yet to see any guy who was truly successful with a particular woman who referred to him or anything he's said as "nice." Plus it sounds as if her response was a gentle blow off.
 

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Francisco, I tend to agree.

Thats exactly the first impression that popped in my mind.

Thats why I thougth I'd post the comment, and see if I should even bother responding back.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rhizzle said:
Francisco, I tend to agree.

Thats exactly the first impression that popped in my mind.

Thats why I thougth I'd post the comment, and see if I should even bother responding back.
I'm going to do something that I seldom do, post the note you sent and a link to her profile. I critique it and will give you a hint or two about what I would have written to this particular woman. Just remember that you may or may not be able to use it because it may not be your style but it will give you an idea on the concept.
 
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