"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Hey Rhizzle,
Well thank you for your email, it certainly was nice. Yes, I ski as much as I can. As wierd as it sounds, I was actually on the ski team in high school!
Well I hope you have a great week, thanks again!"
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I'd sent this girl, and several others an email yesterday. I get a VERY low response rate to my emails on there.

I didn't ask a lot of questions in the email, so she basically did answer the ones I asked in her reply.

Is this a pity reply, or does she maybe just not know how to respond properly and carry a conversation?

I emailed her yesterday around lunch. She replyed last evening around 10.

Should I write this chick back now, or write her off?

Seems weird to "thank" someone for emailing in this fashion.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First mistake you're making is worring too much about it. Just have fun contacting people and keep it light. Be hard to get too!

Are you hoping for a particular outcome?
 

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Well, I've had VERY minimal luck with match. Like, a ridiculously low response rate.

However, people tell me I'm an attractive guy and I know I have everything else in order.

I guess my point is, it just seems like a retarded response.

I expect people to either say, thanks for writing, but I don't think we're a good match, which I've gotten like twice, or to reply and answer my questions and ask a couple questions herself, and say, talk to ya later.

So, it just seemed dumb.
 

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Maybe you come across as being too serious?

She talked about being on the ski team so I'd say something like "you were on the ski team but did you win anything? ;)".

What did the email you sent (to everybody) say?
 

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DUDE

u posted your pic on sosuave before on another thread, and you are pretty ugly, u gotta get that fixed up with fashion gym and a good hairtcut first before u expect girls to want you IN ANY MEDIUM, including online'

girls wont reply to guys who they dont think are hot
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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AFC,
Dude, I've taken more pics, and I've been told that the old ones did me NO justice, and the new ones were MUCH better, and I have since removed the bad ones and put up the new ones.
 

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lets see the new pics

the #1 reason that guys get a low reply rate online is because the girls dont like what they are looking it
 

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FYI, I have yet to see any guy who was truly successful with a particular woman who referred to him or anything he's said as "nice." Plus it sounds as if her response was a gentle blow off.
 

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Francisco, I tend to agree.

Thats exactly the first impression that popped in my mind.

Thats why I thougth I'd post the comment, and see if I should even bother responding back.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rhizzle said:
Francisco, I tend to agree.

Thats exactly the first impression that popped in my mind.

Thats why I thougth I'd post the comment, and see if I should even bother responding back.
I'm going to do something that I seldom do, post the note you sent and a link to her profile. I critique it and will give you a hint or two about what I would have written to this particular woman. Just remember that you may or may not be able to use it because it may not be your style but it will give you an idea on the concept.
 
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