"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A chick that I had sex with about a month ago told me last week not email her for a while because I was basically not taking her feelings into account because I was really acting like an afc.

She said I was being to expressive.

Now she has just sent me an email saying "Are you ok?"

How do I respond to this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No, she just said I was to expressive and that it was making her feel upset.


Note: She is in India right now, I am in China.
 

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She told you not email her for a while. Then don't. If she's worried about you, she'll ping you a little harder.
 

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Brother, with all of that delicious chinese cuisine to dine on why in the hell are you worried about a girl in India?

Best thing to do is eat all the Ziyi Zhang you can and move on with your life.

Don't eat the Sum-Yung-Guy though :D !
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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KarmaSutra said:
Brother, with all of that delicious chinese cuisine to dine on why in the hell are you worried about a girl in India?

Best thing to do is eat all the Ziyi Zhang you can and move on with your life.
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KarmaSutra said:
Don't eat the Sum-Yung-Guy though :D !
QUOTE OF THE DAY
 

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Hahaha, yeah, but I think I've had my fill so far.

This is what I was going to send back.

"I am ok. I am thinking to go back to Kunming, I can practice taekwondo and Karate there. It is good exercise for me. "
 

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SharinganUser said:
Hahaha, yeah, but I think I've had my fill so far.

This is what I was going to send back.

"I am ok. I am thinking to go back to Kunming, I can practice taekwondo and Karate there. It is good exercise for me. "

Don't repond at all. Just let it go. Once you have the eye of another honey pot you'll quickly forget about this one.

Delete the email from your mailbox and then from trash and forget you ever got it. If you answer it she'll have her closure from you and the attention she thinks has you in a stranglehold.
 

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I think I'll just try what tick says and then if that doesn't work I can still hit the delete button.
 

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Do you realize that your asking advice on how to get a chick that is in a different country? Do you know how AFC that sounds? No wonder she told you to back off! Give your head a shake, your smarter than that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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arg, it's frustrating what a really good **** can do to me.

I really just want to be on good terms with this chick. Not trying to get with her anymore. What ever I decide to do, I am going to sleep on it for tonight. It's one email and it's not going to ruin my life.

I don't even know why I posted this. It's not a big deal either way. I'll just go with my gut.
 

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I know you guys are going to say I did something afc, but I just decided to respond "I'm ok." At this point I couldn't really give a crap if it validates her, she's crazy and I did what felt natural to me, while still being unexpressive.

I am hungry and tired, so I am a log off now and go to a concert tomarrow, and meet some new girls.

It's done now, so go and help people that really need your help. I am moving on.
 

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SharinganUser said:
arg, it's frustrating what a really good **** can do to me.

I really just want to be on good terms with this chick. Not trying to get with her anymore. What ever I decide to do, I am going to sleep on it for tonight. It's one email and it's not going to ruin my life.

I don't even know why I posted this. It's not a big deal either way. I'll just go with my gut.

Before you become a lost cause. Shut up, delete that email, delete that address and just think if that email wasn't there in the first place would you be behaving like a AFC just way you are doing now?

When Karma gives you advice son, OBEY IT. Cause that ain't a joke!
 

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Tell her no you are not OK cause you are busy as hell but you will get back to her when time permits... Never get back to her let her contact you again then set up a date like you are doing her a favor..
 

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SharinganUser said:
I know you guys are going to say I did something afc, but I just decided to respond "I'm ok." At this point I couldn't really give a crap if it validates her, she's crazy and I did what felt natural to me, while still being unexpressive.

I am hungry and tired, so I am a log off now and go to a concert tomarrow, and meet some new girls.

It's done now, so go and help people that really need your help. I am moving on.
What feels natural is probably the wrong thing to do. Ask yourself whether you acted out of some type of fear. If so, you did the wrong thing. The game is counterintuitive.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Tell her that you're doing awesome!

That way she knows that she hasn't affected you.

No brainer.
 

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SharinganUser said:
A chick that I had sex with about a month ago told me last week not email her for a while because I was basically not taking her feelings into account because I was really acting like an afc.

She said I was being to expressive.

Now she has just sent me an email saying "Are you ok?"

How do I respond to this?

"I am great. How are you?"

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I like to rhyme, I like my beats funky. I'm spunky, I like my oatmeal lumpy.
 

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Vice said:
Tell her that you're doing awesome!

That way she knows that she hasn't affected you.

No brainer.

DonJuan11 said:
"I am great. How are you?"

You guys realize that your encouraging him to keep chasing a women in a totally different county when he's already admitted to acting too AFC?
 

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MacAvoy said:
You guys realize that your encouraging him to keep chasing a women in a totally different county when he's already admitted to acting too AFC?
Brother MacAvoy, they don't understand what makes a man worth his weight.

How can they give any other advice if they haven't grown themselves?

Just let it slide and let's you and I keep helping those with knowledge we've experienced and internalized.
 

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I hear ya bro, I'm just tryin to help the two posters grow by trying to encourage them to look at the entire picture before posting. Too many guys around here chime in for the sake of practicing their typing skills without reading the entire thread. I can understand not reading all the replies but they should at least read all of the OP's replies.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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