"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A chick that I had sex with about a month ago told me last week not email her for a while because I was basically not taking her feelings into account because I was really acting like an afc.

She said I was being to expressive.

Now she has just sent me an email saying "Are you ok?"

How do I respond to this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, she just said I was to expressive and that it was making her feel upset.


Note: She is in India right now, I am in China.
 

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She told you not email her for a while. Then don't. If she's worried about you, she'll ping you a little harder.
 

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Brother, with all of that delicious chinese cuisine to dine on why in the hell are you worried about a girl in India?

Best thing to do is eat all the Ziyi Zhang you can and move on with your life.

Don't eat the Sum-Yung-Guy though :D !
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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KarmaSutra said:
Brother, with all of that delicious chinese cuisine to dine on why in the hell are you worried about a girl in India?

Best thing to do is eat all the Ziyi Zhang you can and move on with your life.
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KarmaSutra said:
Don't eat the Sum-Yung-Guy though :D !
QUOTE OF THE DAY
 

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Hahaha, yeah, but I think I've had my fill so far.

This is what I was going to send back.

"I am ok. I am thinking to go back to Kunming, I can practice taekwondo and Karate there. It is good exercise for me. "
 

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SharinganUser said:
Hahaha, yeah, but I think I've had my fill so far.

This is what I was going to send back.

"I am ok. I am thinking to go back to Kunming, I can practice taekwondo and Karate there. It is good exercise for me. "

Don't repond at all. Just let it go. Once you have the eye of another honey pot you'll quickly forget about this one.

Delete the email from your mailbox and then from trash and forget you ever got it. If you answer it she'll have her closure from you and the attention she thinks has you in a stranglehold.
 

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I think I'll just try what tick says and then if that doesn't work I can still hit the delete button.
 

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Do you realize that your asking advice on how to get a chick that is in a different country? Do you know how AFC that sounds? No wonder she told you to back off! Give your head a shake, your smarter than that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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arg, it's frustrating what a really good **** can do to me.

I really just want to be on good terms with this chick. Not trying to get with her anymore. What ever I decide to do, I am going to sleep on it for tonight. It's one email and it's not going to ruin my life.

I don't even know why I posted this. It's not a big deal either way. I'll just go with my gut.
 

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I know you guys are going to say I did something afc, but I just decided to respond "I'm ok." At this point I couldn't really give a crap if it validates her, she's crazy and I did what felt natural to me, while still being unexpressive.

I am hungry and tired, so I am a log off now and go to a concert tomarrow, and meet some new girls.

It's done now, so go and help people that really need your help. I am moving on.
 

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SharinganUser said:
arg, it's frustrating what a really good **** can do to me.

I really just want to be on good terms with this chick. Not trying to get with her anymore. What ever I decide to do, I am going to sleep on it for tonight. It's one email and it's not going to ruin my life.

I don't even know why I posted this. It's not a big deal either way. I'll just go with my gut.

Before you become a lost cause. Shut up, delete that email, delete that address and just think if that email wasn't there in the first place would you be behaving like a AFC just way you are doing now?

When Karma gives you advice son, OBEY IT. Cause that ain't a joke!
 

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Tell her no you are not OK cause you are busy as hell but you will get back to her when time permits... Never get back to her let her contact you again then set up a date like you are doing her a favor..
 

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SharinganUser said:
I know you guys are going to say I did something afc, but I just decided to respond "I'm ok." At this point I couldn't really give a crap if it validates her, she's crazy and I did what felt natural to me, while still being unexpressive.

I am hungry and tired, so I am a log off now and go to a concert tomarrow, and meet some new girls.

It's done now, so go and help people that really need your help. I am moving on.
What feels natural is probably the wrong thing to do. Ask yourself whether you acted out of some type of fear. If so, you did the wrong thing. The game is counterintuitive.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tell her that you're doing awesome!

That way she knows that she hasn't affected you.

No brainer.
 

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SharinganUser said:
A chick that I had sex with about a month ago told me last week not email her for a while because I was basically not taking her feelings into account because I was really acting like an afc.

She said I was being to expressive.

Now she has just sent me an email saying "Are you ok?"

How do I respond to this?

"I am great. How are you?"

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I like to rhyme, I like my beats funky. I'm spunky, I like my oatmeal lumpy.
 

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Vice said:
Tell her that you're doing awesome!

That way she knows that she hasn't affected you.

No brainer.

DonJuan11 said:
"I am great. How are you?"

You guys realize that your encouraging him to keep chasing a women in a totally different county when he's already admitted to acting too AFC?
 

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MacAvoy said:
You guys realize that your encouraging him to keep chasing a women in a totally different county when he's already admitted to acting too AFC?
Brother MacAvoy, they don't understand what makes a man worth his weight.

How can they give any other advice if they haven't grown themselves?

Just let it slide and let's you and I keep helping those with knowledge we've experienced and internalized.
 

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I hear ya bro, I'm just tryin to help the two posters grow by trying to encourage them to look at the entire picture before posting. Too many guys around here chime in for the sake of practicing their typing skills without reading the entire thread. I can understand not reading all the replies but they should at least read all of the OP's replies.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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