Got the number need to make a date

[Maxtro]

Well the unthinkable has happened. I actually got a number and now I need to make plans for the weekend. This is the gym girl in my other thread. I met up with her at the gym today and she was sorry that she didn't call me. She gave me a very valid reason and I was cool with it. We talked for about 20 minutes (while we were on treadmills) about various things in her life. Mostly about her history and other things that I can't recall. She's up in California by herself with most of if not all her family still in Mexico.

Anyways she got a new cell and gave me her number. I tried to call her cell then and there but there was no signal in the gym I did some light kino and said goodbye. Well here I am now with no idea what to do next. I'm kind of in shock that I actually got her number. My mind is completely blank. If it matters she is an 18 year old Latina.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Why would you call her cell "then and there" after she gave you the number?

 

[DonJuan11]

If it matters she is an 18 year old Latina.

Totally matters. If she was an 38 year old Latina you wouldn't care.

 

[Maxtro]

Why would you call her cell "then and there" after she gave you the number?

Because she had her phone out, just playing with her.

Totally matters. If she was an 38 year old Latina you wouldn't care.

Yup I just put that there because she is 18 and I don't really know what would interest an 18 year old girl or what she would consider fun.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

you better play it cool when you call her so you can get a date.

 

[sav]

why didnt you setup a date right then and there?

but anyways, call her and make small talk, keep it short, and then say something like, btw, im doing this and that on the weekend.. would you like to join me?

simple... keep the convo short... good luck

 

[kdnash82]

why didnt you setup a date right then and there?

but anyways, call her and make small talk, keep it short, and then say something like, btw, im doing this and that on the weekend.. would you like to join me?

simple... keep the convo short... good luck

Almost perfect advice. I would tell her to join you vice ask her to join you though. I guess I'm just into that whole "make her mind up for her" type of thing.

"btw, i'm doing thtis and that this weekend... you should come with me"

 

[Maxtro]

why didnt you setup a date right then and there?

but anyways, call her and make small talk, keep it short, and then say something like, btw, im doing this and that on the weekend.. would you like to join me?

simple... keep the convo short... good luck

I didn't make the date because her friend wanted to go and her friend had the car. I also couldn't think of anything. When it comes to girls I'm basically 100% clueless. I just need to figure things out.

Would it be ok to simply go to lunch with her and seeing how things go from there? I can think of a few ways to extend the date, like suggesting mini golf or bowling after we eat.

How much notice should I give her. Like would it be ok to call her on Friday and set up a date for Sat?

Something like.

"Hey xxx, How you doin? Lets get together for lunch on Saturday or Sunday. Which one works best for you?" Then I get her address, cause she doesn't have a car. I set a time then, "Cool, 12 o'clock on Saturday, see you then"

Is that ok?

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I think that's good just be prepared-- what if she says she can't because she has to work or something. What do you say then?
Sometimes when I ask a girl out like that I get an excuse and then I never get a date at all.

 

[Maxtro]

Thats why I gave her the choice of Sat or Sun and I know what she doesn't work.

Ok I pretty much figured out what I'll say on Fri. Does it matter when I call? I don't think it does but I'm just fretting over everything...

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Thats why I gave her the choice of Sat or Sun and I know what she doesn't work.

Ok I pretty much figured out what I'll say on Fri. Does it matter when I call? I don't think it does but I'm just fretting over everything...

It doesn't have to be work. She might just say she's "busy". Then what are you gonna say?

If you got the # today you can't call until next week buddy. I wouldn't worry about getting a date with her this weekend.

 

[Maxtro]

I see her every Tues and Thurs so it's kind of pointless to set up a date for next week. I also first "asked her out" last week and she had way too many things going on then to go out with me. I'd rather strike when the iron is hot. Her interest level seemed to be pretty high so I doubt that she will say that she is busy for both days. If she says that she is then I'll call her a hore and hang up

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I see her every Tues and Thurs so it's kind of pointless to set up a date for next week. I also first "asked her out" last week and she had way too many things going on then to go out with me. I'd rather strike when the iron is hot. Her interest level seemed to be pretty high so I doubt that she will say that she is busy for both days. If she says that she is then I'll call her a hore and hang up

Go for it.. I didn't realize you knew her already. Let us know how it goes.

 

[The Sperminator]

Why dont you ask her out on a weekday. Everytime I ask a girl on a weekday she is almost always likely free. Weekends they usually have stuff planned already or busy.

 

[Maxtro]

Go for it.. I didn't realize you knew her already. Let us know how it goes.

Thanks, hopefully I'll post a good update in a couple of days.

Why dont you ask her out on a weekday. Everytime I ask a girl on a weekday she is almost always likely free. Weekends they usually have stuff planned already or busy.

Well I got her number today, Thursday so the next weekday is tomorrow. I could make a date with her for Monday but it would have to be after class and she or I may have a bunch of homework to do. It's still an idea though that I'll consider.

Theres another girl that I'm going to try and ask out on Friday. I may take her to lunch or I may have to schedule two dates over the weekend Or I might suggest lunch with her on Monday.

 

[slitherjef]

Well the unthinkable has happened. I actually got a number and now I need to make plans for the weekend.

I know how that is... actualy getting a number. Im suprised that I did not call up the National Weather Service to check the temp in Hell when I got numbers LOL

Congrats, buddy. Hope you get the date

 

[kdnash82]

Never give a girl a choice and never setup a first date on the weekend. You're setting yourself up for failure.

I usually call late Monday or Tuesday evening and try to set something up for either Wednesday or Thursday. I don't ask her which one she wants. I tell her that I'm going out on that night to do whatever and that she should join me. Never let a girl decide for herself because you will give her the option of saying no.

If you give her a day that you want to see her and she says no and doesn't give you another option or suggest another time/day/year, then next her butt. Do not sit around waiting on her to decide that she wants to get with you. She's either with it or she's not, regardless your train is pulling away, so she better hop on while she has the chance.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

^^ True... I was trying to warn Maxtro about that stuff but he wouldn't listen.

 

[Maxtro]

LOL. I appreciate the warnings. Right now, nexting a girl isn't a good option for me. I'm just going to stick with me original plan and see how it goes. Maybe I'll fail, maybe I won't.

One thing I am concerned with is what to talk about on the "date." I want her to be as attracted to me as possible. I know I should do plenty of kino on her. But the conversation is what worries me. I know most of her background. I'll have to delve more into her interests and what she likes to do. Is it ok to talk to her about what she likes in a guy and stuff like that?

 

[kdnash82]

LOL. I appreciate the warnings. Right now, nexting a girl isn't a good option for me. I'm just going to stick with me original plan and see how it goes. Maybe I'll fail, maybe I won't.

One thing I am concerned with is what to talk about on the "date." I want her to be as attracted to me as possible. I know I should do plenty of kino on her. But the conversation is what worries me. I know most of her background. I'll have to delve more into her interests and what she likes to do. Is it ok to talk to her about what she likes in a guy and stuff like that?

Well good luck with your plan. Seems kinda lame to me. If I was a girl and a guy asked me on a lunch date, I'd probably laugh at him. Seems very un-original and dull. Might as well take her to a movie. Also, taking a girl out on the weekend will probably give her the impression that you don't have a life. Most people already have things to do on the weekend. Not usually the case during the week.

But hey.... do what you do and have fun with it. Good luck and let us know how it goes. I'm definately curious.

I wouldn't get into the whole "What do you like to do? Where are you from?" conversations. I'd keep everything in the moment. If she starts talking about something that happened to her early this week, tell a funny story that happened to you during the week. If she starts talking about something that she went through when she was a kid, tell a similiar story. The point is to make her think that you guys have something in common, so everything she tells you, tell a similiar story.