Got the #... but now f***

[MountainSlide]

hey. So I was flirting with this dime the other day, and got her number. We started texting all was good. We were putting together plans to hang out. Then a day passed, and I tried giving her a call. She didn't answer but texted me instead saying that her voice is destroyed and she didn't want to talk on the phone. This kind of raises red flags for me just because maybe she was with a bf or something. Anyway she offered that she would call me the next day but didn't.

I have other plates but this one seemed like we clicked quite nicely plus she is super attractive. Now I'm in a situation where I can't call or text her without looking desperate, but I was really excited to go on a date with her.

What's some good advice on dealing with this situation?

 

[lizardking82]

1) She said she'll call, she didn't. Leave it at that.

2) Don't get so excited without bangin' at least.

 

[Young OG]

Wait a few days and just text her "Hey" or "Hi." If she doesn't respond, then delete her number. Don't worry about looking desperate by doing this because you have nothing to lose.

I wouldn't have called her. Women nowadays prefer texting in the beginning...

 

[RangerMIke]

hey. So I was flirting with this dime the other day, and got her number. We started texting all was good. We were putting together plans to hang out. Then a day passed, and I tried giving her a call. She didn't answer but texted me instead saying that her voice is destroyed and she didn't want to talk on the phone. This kind of raises red flags for me just because maybe she was with a bf or something. Anyway she offered that she would call me the next day but didn't.

I have other plates but this one seemed like we clicked quite nicely plus she is super attractive. Now I'm in a situation where I can't call or text her without looking desperate, but I was really excited to go on a date with her.

What's some good advice on dealing with this situation?

Okay what do you mean 'putting together plans.' The best way to go IMO is to have in mind what you want to do, then invite her along. You may have dallied around too much.

I don't like texting... but some chicks that's really all they want to do, the fact she doesn't want to talk I find is pretty normal for 20-somethings.... but don't get into some texting conversation with them.. Invite them out and see what happens. Really just cut to the chase.... it's not that hard. But if you dance around too much without getting to the point, trying to figure things out... you might lose out on an opportunity.

Advice? Get to the point ask them out to something you want to do. If she likes you she will meet up, if she doesn't she won't. If she doesn't want to spend time with you just move on... delete the number and forget she exists.

 

[Trump]

hey. So I was flirting with this dime the other day, and got her number. We started texting all was good. We were putting together plans to hang out. Then a day passed, and I tried giving her a call.

Why did you text her and then give her a call? Texting should have been 'meet me here at x time and x place.' Nothing more. Nothing less. If you have call her after texting you are gettting dangerously close to the friend zone.

She didn't answer but texted me instead saying that her voice is destroyed and she didn't want to talk on the phone. This kind of raises red flags for me just because maybe she was with a bf or something. Anyway she offered that she would call me the next day but didn't. I have other plates but this one seemed like we clicked quite nicely plus she is super attractive. Now I'm in a situation where I can't call or text her without looking desperate, but I was really excited to go on a date with her.

What's some good advice on dealing with this situation?

You don't 'deal' with her NOT calling you. You leave it as is. And don't text with emotion, it will be used against you.

 

[MountainSlide]

Lol well okay. So I should quit sending her roses and telling her that I'm in love then? Jokes. Yeah I'll just give it a few days and then send a message asking if she wants to go to xyz strip club and grab a drink. If she doesn't respond I'll just add her to my automated spamming mail list for follow ups on lost potential hookups bahaaha.

 

[nismo-4]

Either you're already friendzoned or she just wanted your attention so you'd chase her.

Or she just got serious with her boyfriend. Move on. She's not super attractive like you think.

 

[Urbanyst]

Wait a month and see if you are still interested. If you are then text her again.

But that would say a lot about your options since you should of met many other women by then.

 

[MountainSlide]

I wouldn't have her phone number in a mont

Wait a month and see if you are still interested. If you are then text her again.

But that would say a lot about your options since you should of met many other women by then.

If I'm not talking with her, I won't have her number in a month; It's now or never. But she already ****ed up by not following through with what she said, and this shows a lack of integrity as well as poor character, so I wouldn't be interested in dating her (unless she has an excellent excuse). I'm friend zoning her into the fwb category. Thanks for putting things into perspective for me lol.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Bro, People hate phone calls.
Gary V even said it himself..
phone calls in this day age are dead.
I only call people i REALLY CARE ABOUT
and who im close to.
I cringe even when my mother calls.

This applys 10x to hot girls.
They get BLOWN up every day.
constantly getting invites to partys.
Porn offers, dates, marriage proposals.
etc lol

They rarely talk to guys they have met once.

"The woman is a fish swimming in a sea of d!cks"

 

[AlphaNate]

Why did you text her and then give her a call? Texting should have been 'meet me here at x time and x place.' Nothing more. Nothing less. If you have call her after texting you are gettting dangerously close to the friend zone.

This, exactly. You're escalating in the wrong direction.

 

[dude99]

hey. So I was flirting with this dime the other day, and got her number. We started texting all was good. We were putting together plans to hang out. Then a day passed, and I tried giving her a call. She didn't answer but texted me instead saying that her voice is destroyed and she didn't want to talk on the phone. This kind of raises red flags for me just because maybe she was with a bf or something. Anyway she offered that she would call me the next day but didn't.

I have other plates but this one seemed like we clicked quite nicely plus she is super attractive. Now I'm in a situation where I can't call or text her without looking desperate, but I was really excited to go on a date with her.

What's some good advice on dealing with this situation?

Follow her actions. Not her words.

You call. She texts.
She said she would call. She didn't.

Don't let her looks shut off your rational thought process. Treat all women the same. The dimes and the nickels get the same treatment from you when YOU are the prize.

I would make this one very low on my priorities list. Pencil her for a "nexting" if there aren't any real signs of interest from her