I am posting this just to re-affirm the 'make her say no' approach to women.
Don't get me wrong, what I mean by make her say 'no' means that when asking for a number, going for a kiss, don't say no for her. Ask her. Most likely you will get a decent response. Don't assume, for whatever reason, that she is or isn't interested. Don't shoot yourself down.
An example:
I saw this girl at a bar I was at last night. I wasn't really out to meet any women. I was just out to relax and have some drinks. Anyway, I notice she is talking to this guy that had tried to chat me up earlier. So, I went to sit down with them in a booth. I didn't know the guy, I didn't know the girl, I just sat down. Fast forward, and this girls "boyfriend" comes and sits down, too. What he said was something about someone talking to 'my girlfriend.'
What I had noticed was that they weren't sitting together. So, what did I do? I ignored him. Just cause he says, "thats my gf" doesn't mean it's true, and doesn't mean she really even likes him.
So, the girl and I get to talking. Her "bf" goes to the bar, so I get a minute for one on one convo. It goes prett well for just meeting her and for her 'bf' being there. I coach basketball and we talk a bit about that. She is from the midwest where hoops is pretty big. Anyway, I tell her that I really feel a connection and that it would be fun to continue this conversation elsewhere, alone.
So, I ask for her number. She hesitates. Looks over her shoulder at her "bf." And than starts to give me her number, but instead says, "here, this is easier." And hands me her business card with her name and number on it.
What's the point of this?
Well, I didn't assume anything. I didn't assume that she would say "no" cause her boyfriend was there. I didn't even assume he mattered. I just ignored it.
All it takes is some small talk on something you have in common. Then acting really into what you are talking about. For us, it was basketball and it's a huge passion of mine, so my speaking about it, really shows my interest. After that, it's "telling her" that you should continue the conversation another time. And how do you do that? Ding, by getting the number. You aren't asking for anything. you are just directing them to continue this 'great conversation' at a later time. And, why wouldn't she want to?
The boyfriend was a loser. I don't like to bag on other guys, but he let others chat up his girl, he didn't act like he was confident, so, I was just doing what I do best. Talk. There were no lines. It was just confidence, determination, and being genuine.
If I had listened to the guy and said, "oh, I shouldn't focus on her' I wouldn't have a number, or a 'no.'
Either get the number, or make them say no. Don't second guess.
Don't get me wrong, what I mean by make her say 'no' means that when asking for a number, going for a kiss, don't say no for her. Ask her. Most likely you will get a decent response. Don't assume, for whatever reason, that she is or isn't interested. Don't shoot yourself down.
An example:
I saw this girl at a bar I was at last night. I wasn't really out to meet any women. I was just out to relax and have some drinks. Anyway, I notice she is talking to this guy that had tried to chat me up earlier. So, I went to sit down with them in a booth. I didn't know the guy, I didn't know the girl, I just sat down. Fast forward, and this girls "boyfriend" comes and sits down, too. What he said was something about someone talking to 'my girlfriend.'
What I had noticed was that they weren't sitting together. So, what did I do? I ignored him. Just cause he says, "thats my gf" doesn't mean it's true, and doesn't mean she really even likes him.
So, the girl and I get to talking. Her "bf" goes to the bar, so I get a minute for one on one convo. It goes prett well for just meeting her and for her 'bf' being there. I coach basketball and we talk a bit about that. She is from the midwest where hoops is pretty big. Anyway, I tell her that I really feel a connection and that it would be fun to continue this conversation elsewhere, alone.
So, I ask for her number. She hesitates. Looks over her shoulder at her "bf." And than starts to give me her number, but instead says, "here, this is easier." And hands me her business card with her name and number on it.
What's the point of this?
Well, I didn't assume anything. I didn't assume that she would say "no" cause her boyfriend was there. I didn't even assume he mattered. I just ignored it.
All it takes is some small talk on something you have in common. Then acting really into what you are talking about. For us, it was basketball and it's a huge passion of mine, so my speaking about it, really shows my interest. After that, it's "telling her" that you should continue the conversation another time. And how do you do that? Ding, by getting the number. You aren't asking for anything. you are just directing them to continue this 'great conversation' at a later time. And, why wouldn't she want to?
The boyfriend was a loser. I don't like to bag on other guys, but he let others chat up his girl, he didn't act like he was confident, so, I was just doing what I do best. Talk. There were no lines. It was just confidence, determination, and being genuine.
If I had listened to the guy and said, "oh, I shouldn't focus on her' I wouldn't have a number, or a 'no.'
Either get the number, or make them say no. Don't second guess.