Hung out with my buddy and his 2-18 yr old neighbors. We all ended up getting hammered. Got into two seperate bedrooms with the girls. This chick was making out with me and groping me all night long, then we got down to just panties and boxers in her bedroom and she refused to do anything. She told me that she "didnt know me well enough" and that she just wanted to sleep with me. I talked to her for like 15 minutes after that, gave her my number (cause she asked for it) then bailed. I told her I didnt want to sleep with her cause I didnt know her well enough, and wouldnt be able to sleep in her bed. She called and texted the next day, but I didnt respond cause she annoyed me. She wasnt a virgin, any ideas as to why she would be such a tease?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Next her, especially shince u had to lower ur standards automatic next. In the future stay n less talkin n more action she will eventually fet into it jus do more foreplay
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
She bailed after she gave you her number? This isn't an IOD, you're probably misinterpreting the subcommunication here. Besides, she texted you the next day. She's definitely interested.
I'm more about quality than quantity, though. I'd rather go half a year without kissing any girls than kiss a girl I'm not attracted to. Please don't lower your standards.
=)
I'm more about quality than quantity, though. I'd rather go half a year without kissing any girls than kiss a girl I'm not attracted to. Please don't lower your standards.
=)
mastacheef
Don Juan
dude! that was some non-afc sh*t if im reading that correctly. very smooth... she said she didnt want to do more because she didn't know you well enough so you said you didn't want to sleep with her saying the same thing hahaha cracks me up.. if your down for it get to know her a little better and seal the deal my brotha! you got this in the bag
and i learned something recently, even if a girl says no that doesn't always mean no.. if its a serious no and you can tell then take it as a no but if its a no in playful way, keep going.. (replace the word no with the words she used)
and i learned something recently, even if a girl says no that doesn't always mean no.. if its a serious no and you can tell then take it as a no but if its a no in playful way, keep going.. (replace the word no with the words she used)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
dude this is just simply last minute rejection... its so fvckin common bro, and its easily delt with.
one thing, the title of this thread is totally wrong, sounds like you got a lot of action.
I think you certainly have this one in the bag. Maybe she wanted you to take totally control and just hump her so she didnt feel like a slvt. Maybe she wont sleep with you the first night cause of her own priorities but might ride it like a cowgirl on the second play night.
Its hard to tell... But either way you sound like youre taking this personally, like an ego hit and it has nothing to do with you.
The best thing to do is ALWAYS BE OK with not getting sex from a girl on the first night. If you really think about it, thats a major jump for A LOT of girls. I think you handled it perfectly, its just your attitude about the whole experience is wrong.
Just always be cool. Be aggressive and go for what you want, but try not to be forceful or pushy about sex... just casually keep escalating towards it, and if it doesn't work today keep the escalation going the next day too...
... I myself have been working on NOT thinking in my head that i'm about to get some. Its such a let down when I'm with a chick and everything is going great and I start thinking "ohhh hell yeah im about to get laid", cause they tend to pick up on your vibe and for some reason it can make them want to stop like they are being slvtty and don't want to be easy.
Its best to not care, just enjoy everything and keep escalating. If you get it then awesome, if not, ohwell you still enjoyed your time with her...
Plus this carefree attitude will be less intrusive and make her more relaxed and comfortable with sleeping with you. It makes her feel like you arent judging her, youre just going with the flow and doing whatever it natural.
one thing, the title of this thread is totally wrong, sounds like you got a lot of action.
I think you certainly have this one in the bag. Maybe she wanted you to take totally control and just hump her so she didnt feel like a slvt. Maybe she wont sleep with you the first night cause of her own priorities but might ride it like a cowgirl on the second play night.
Its hard to tell... But either way you sound like youre taking this personally, like an ego hit and it has nothing to do with you.
The best thing to do is ALWAYS BE OK with not getting sex from a girl on the first night. If you really think about it, thats a major jump for A LOT of girls. I think you handled it perfectly, its just your attitude about the whole experience is wrong.
Just always be cool. Be aggressive and go for what you want, but try not to be forceful or pushy about sex... just casually keep escalating towards it, and if it doesn't work today keep the escalation going the next day too...
... I myself have been working on NOT thinking in my head that i'm about to get some. Its such a let down when I'm with a chick and everything is going great and I start thinking "ohhh hell yeah im about to get laid", cause they tend to pick up on your vibe and for some reason it can make them want to stop like they are being slvtty and don't want to be easy.
Its best to not care, just enjoy everything and keep escalating. If you get it then awesome, if not, ohwell you still enjoyed your time with her...
Plus this carefree attitude will be less intrusive and make her more relaxed and comfortable with sleeping with you. It makes her feel like you arent judging her, youre just going with the flow and doing whatever it natural.
ready123
Master Don Juan
yeah dude, learn how to deal with LMR, that's all it was
when the girl doesn't know you, or hasn't been given enough time to figure out if you're trustworthy, chances are you're gonna run into LMR
learn how to defuse it instead of ejecting yourself. you guys are in your underwear touchign each other, do you think all she really wants to do is zzzzzz? she just wants reassurance she's not making a mistake
when the girl doesn't know you, or hasn't been given enough time to figure out if you're trustworthy, chances are you're gonna run into LMR
learn how to defuse it instead of ejecting yourself. you guys are in your underwear touchign each other, do you think all she really wants to do is zzzzzz? she just wants reassurance she's not making a mistake
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NEXT!
I'll say it again: NEXT!
One more for the road: NEXT!