Got nexted because of my age...

[Mr. Wise]

I met a super hot babe at a bar while I was just sitting down. I told her "hi" and she came over to sit by me. My friends and I were in shock!! We made small talk with my friends and later I took her outside to get "fresh air". She showed all the signs of high interest and then some. Anyway she asked my age and I told her "it's a secret". I got her number, yada, and she gave me a ride to my car. Well, she found out my age (she's 21) from a mutual friend and doesn't want to hang out now that she's informed. How do you guys deal with this? It's happened twice in the last 3 weeks by really popular HB8's. One good thing about this though - a chick I used to date a couple years ago which I wouldn't mind checking out again saw all this happening (she was our waitress). She seems to be interested to go out again - leggy with a nicest baldy I've ever been with!!

 

[Interceptor]

My advice?
Don't attach too much importance or meaning to this.
Don't hang your Identity onto what some dumb 21 yr old air head thinks.

Recognize your self worth, and don't let this affect your confidence level as much.
Keep your chin up, and stay positive no matter what.

 

[ketostix]

Well unless you just want to play it honest and you want to be weeded out of what will probably only develop into a short fling anyway for no reason other than a number, I would fudge your age down into the late 20's.

 

[reset]

A lot of chicks like older dudes. Hell I just turned 31 we're not exactly in the old folks home are we?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

A lot of chicks like older dudes. Hell I just turned 31 we're not exactly in the old folks home are we?

I'm currently being pursued by a woman younger than you.

 

[Mr. Wise]

My advice?
Don't hang your Identity onto what some dumb 21 yr old air head thinks.

What if she had perfect natural boobs?

j/k - thanks for the comments and will do.

 

[eyedogg]

Brother Wise,

Look at it - AND TRULY DO THIS - as HER LOSS. Just as brother Interceptor suggested. For all you know, she may not even have a baldy as the waitress that caught on to your "value" does.

 

[joekerr31]

21 year olds dont bring much to the table, so its not like you lost out other than getting laid.

as for how to play the 21 year olds. while im no expert on that front i think a good tactic is to actually use age to your advantage by making her age the issue.

for example, once i was having drinks with 3 women. a few drinks in the conversation got onto a sexual topic. and i say 'honestly, blow jobs aren't that important. most women are really bad at them. you can usually tell by a womans personality whether she will be any good or not."

then one of the chics pipes up and says 'im really good at them!"

so i say. 'hmmm. you wouldn't be too bad probably. i'd guess you'd be about a 7 out of 10.'

then the next girl goes 'what about me?"

'you'd probably be a 10 out of 10.'

i won't transcribe the whole convo, but needless to say the women all then got into a heated debated about why i rated one higher than the other and trying to get me to change their rating. i just kept C&F'ing them. btw, the girl i said 7 to was the one i liked, the one i said 10 to i had no interest in - i was just her to get the one i liked to seek my approval.

anyway, when you are with these younger women you gotta drop some stories about how great they will be when they get older and how you love older women because they know what they are doing etc.

im telling you, basically insulting a woman with a compliment (you'll be great when you get older) drives them nuts. then toss in some C&F and they will do anything to prove to you that older women have nothing on them.

 

[MacAvoy]

I'm gonna take the dirt bag unmoralistic bastard route. Realistically speaking, your not gonna enter a LTR with these 21 yr old girls, so just lie a little bit, say your 28 or something. A realistic age that you can pass for.

At 21, if she's pressing, she's that shallow, so why not be shallow back, then its a win win situation, you get a good bang and she gets a good time with a guy thats more mature than a 21 yr old punk.

 

[guru1000]

For every 21 year old who thinks you are old, you will have another 2 who will CHASE you. Besides up to the age of 25, there would only be one purpose.

 

[drmeathead]

dude you arent in the right frat or a pre-med and plan to take the MCAT next year or you didnt have a chance to do a really cool internship last semster that might get you in to law school (albeit a third teir one) or you arent that bartender on low grade steriods that will let her 20 year old friend in for a few drinks. it had nothing to do with your age man. 21 year old girls are retards for the most part. they wouldnt know a good thing if it bit them in the ass. even if they did, if they are hot and know it they are not about to trade in their small pond celebrity status for some guy with NO SOCIAL PROOF (edit in their minds anyway). age had nothing to do with it.

 

[Mr. Wise]

dude you arent in the right frat or a pre-med and plan to take the MCAT next year or you didnt have a chance to do a really cool internship last semster that might get you in to law school (albeit a third teir one) or you arent that bartender on low grade steriods that will let her 20 year old friend in for a few drinks. it had nothing to do with your age man. 21 year old girls are retards for the most part. they wouldnt know a good thing if it bit them in the ass. even if they did, if they are hot and know it they are not about to trade in their small pond celebrity status for some guy with NO SOCIAL PROOF (edit in their minds anyway). age had nothing to do with it.

For YOU it may not be age and all these bonesheads you let beat you out cuz you ugly - I'm very handsome that's why this "being approached by women" always happens.

Oh, and you should do something about yourself because by the tone of your post you sound like an AVFC - Average Very Frustrated Chump.

 

[Phyzzle]

nicest baldy I've ever been with!!

Hey there, sweetheart. Like the baldies? I keep my head shaved shiny

 

[Mr. Wise]

Hey there, sweetheart. Like the baldies? I keep my head shaved shiny

Not quite what I was talking about but thanks for the offer - I'm flattered.

 

[drmeathead]

yeah i am an ugly fat old bastard. i was speaking in generalities. sure i can talk to them, get there number and even hook up that night or even date them for a little. it is no big deal. like i said they are retarded and can be an easy mark for a time. my point is that they are at a different point in life than a guy ur age and have value on different things. also, in general, a guy your age is totally out of their social circle and you carry no value beyond physical attraction. which is great for you and can work however it will increase her flake likelihood as well as increase the **** block intensity from her friends.

 

[joekerr31]

when i was 21 i still thought of myself as a 'kid'

i thought of a 31 year old woman as an adult. i saw us as being in highly distinct worlds with very little connection.

it wasn't until i was around 25 that age stopped mattering.

 

[Mr. Wise]

when i was 21 i still thought of myself as a 'kid'

i thought of a 31 year old woman as an adult. i saw us as being in highly distinct worlds with very little connection.

it wasn't until i was around 25 that age stopped mattering.

Yeah, to some chicks it still doesn't matter even at 21. I've dated a 19 yr. old this year. I think the chick has to be confident and secure to be with an older dude. The girl in my post was outgoing but fairly conservative in her thinking, worrying about what others would think about her too much.

 

[STR8UP]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=94860&highlight=younger+women

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=123807&highlight=younger+women

The first thread is the perfect example of the FOOL PROOF way to diffuse the age issue and use it to your advantage. The second thread is what happens when you forget to use it.

 

[Mr. Wise]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=94860&highlight=younger+women

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=123807&highlight=younger+women

The first thread is the perfect example of the FOOL PROOF way to diffuse the age issue and use it to your advantage. The second thread is what happens when you forget to use it.

I'll do that next time... I'll post back on this experience because it always happens to me. I guess the babyface make them think I'm their age of something.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I'm dating a 21 year old so far I think she likes the fact I'm older. I'm just focusing on trying to get her to stick around and not acting AFC so far it's working. She is chasing me it feels damn good.