Got Married

[scrapperdog]

I am posting this not so you can say congrats but instead to thank this site and great posters for its help. It is embarassing how clueless I was with women before I came here. Nuff said.

 

[Mr. Me]

It's customary to have us all kiss the bride.

 

[DJDamage]

This 2 sentence post is unworthy of a post.

The best way you can thank this site is to completly share your story from the begining to present day about who you were before coming on sosuave and who you are now including how did you meet this chick and what qualities you saw in her that made you decide you want to spend "the rest of your life" with her.

 

[wjh]

This 2 sentence post is unworthy of a post.

The best way you can thank this site is to completly share your story from the begining to present day about who you were before coming on sosuave and who you are now including how did you meet this chick and what qualities you saw in her that made you decide you want to spend "the rest of your life" with her.

I second this sentiment.

 

[scrapperdog]

I did not post the story cause I know u guys hear sob stories all the time and I wanted to spare you.

However the facts are this.
1) I was a 36 year old bachelor with no prospects when I joined this site. Well on my way to becoming a life long bachelor.
2) Had not had sex with a girl in 2 years when I joined this site. I am a good looking guy but had given up due to frustration and a sense that I could never make anything work so why bother. I would lose women with my afc ways just as fast as I attracted them with my looks. The rejection hurt more than not trying, so I stopped.

After I joined the site I started trying again. This time armed with more knowledge. Started having sex with women again. Like many of the older guys here I was not looking to bang a bunch of broads but to open my options with the goal to find someone that it might work long term with.

Eventually I met a girl she is 6 months older than me and not a perfect 10 but she is funny with an awesome personality, has a graduate degree and great career as a high school teacher, owns her own house, and treated my daughter very kind and gentle. I fell for her, and it happened. Honestly I dont think this would have ever happened without this site.

I read you guys advice and took the DJ bible to heart, and my results improved quicky. Not overnight, it was a struggle, but they did improve. Eventually, women were calling me instead of always the other way around like it used to be. Even though I did not post I took a lot of inspiration from the people who do post here.

 

[J Roc]

*waits for the divorce thread*

 

[Aenigma]

How long were you two dating, how long did you know her before you got married?

 

[slaog]

Good stuff Scrapperdog! It's always great to hear success stories.

 

[Freddy1]

I am posting this not so you can say congrats but instead to thank this site and great posters for its help. It is embarassing how clueless I was with women before I came here. Nuff said.

(If your really married or thinking of getting marry.)
Whatever you do always hide a portion of your assests from a women. Trust me. I know alot of guys who got married and regretted it badly later on. Play it smart. Dont say no one warned you.

 

[Freddy1]

*waits for the divorce thread*

:crackup: That thought did occur to me too. Chances are your right!

 

[squirrels]

I am posting this not so you can say congrats but instead to thank this site and great posters for its help. It is embarassing how clueless I was with women before I came here. Nuff said.

Congrats, man. Hope it's the "real deal" and not the ol' "bait-and-switch". Many happy years.

 

[Aenigma]

The funny thing is I thought about posting a thread here when I got married too.....

 

[PeeGee]

*waits for the divorce thread*

My brother had this saying that cynicism is okay when it's right.

We shall see. The only advice we should be giving men who are married and feel they've 'won' the game is that the game is not over, and not to quit being a DJ. Espouse the philosophies until the day you die, and the 'divorce thread' crap will not happen. Or it will happen under your terms.

 

[sodbuster]

As a divorced guy, I'd second the part about never letting your guard down. She can never see the insecure you or she will dispise you. Keep up the DJ attitude. Say no once in a while-just because. Keep her wroking for your affection etc. Keep growing and improving so she knows you can still pull a woman if you wanted to. As long as she's in a competition with another possible woman, you'll get treated better.

As an ex wife of the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy told him" How can I trust you to stand up for me, if you can't stand up TO me"

 

[STR8UP]

As a divorced guy, I'd second the part about never letting your guard down. She can never see the insecure you or she will dispise you. Keep up the DJ attitude. Say no once in a while-just because. Keep her wroking for your affection etc. Keep growing and improving so she knows you can still pull a woman if you wanted to. As long as she's in a competition with another possible woman, you'll get treated better.

That's great advice for ANY relationship, and I believe it goes x10 for a marriage.

Never underestimate the power of competition anxiety. You can get away with a lot of shady sh!t as a man JUST by keeping a woman flustered over the possibility that you will replace her. You can also use this constructively simply maintaining the implication that you always have options.

My brother had this saying that cynicism is okay when it's right.

We shall see. The only advice we should be giving men who are married and feel they've 'won' the game is that the game is not over, and not to quit being a DJ. Espouse the philosophies until the day you die, and the 'divorce thread' crap will not happen. Or it will happen under your terms.

Totally.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that marriage is the beginning of a completely NEW challenge.

I have never been married but I have seen enough divorces to know how it commonly plays out, and it's usually the woman getting bored or losing attraction because the guy becomes complacent.

Marriage is the time when you step UP your game, not when you quit playing.