Got laid, now whats next?

[yul]

Hi,

I finally hooked up with this charming barmaid from a local pub where I never go.

She told me she had tons of boys lining up for her at the bar but she hasn't made love in a LONG time because she didn't feel comfortable with it.

I could tell she was right because the whole ordeal was a bit unusual.

I am not sure if she came or not. She told me she wasnt the "performance" oriented type and that she didn't yet know what she was going to do with me (laughing).

Even I didn't come probable because I was stressed out and about 4AM..it happens. ( I did have a massive boner though).

I told her she was good but she felt insulted (huh?) then I told her I was honest and didn't mean it in a bad way.

I called the next day and left a message saying "I thought we had a great night last ight and that we should get in touch some other time".

She hasnt called back yet. 2 days now.

She did say that evening that she didn't always return phone calls even from her friends because that was the way she was.

How should I go from now on? Let a few days to a week go by?

I am genuinely wondering about how she is doing...not in a needy way, more like a friend would. Is a phone call or an email better at this point?

I know this wont go far but hey, I like her!

 

[Toushi]

One-itis. Get over it. You may think she's only a friend to you, and yada yada, but keep thinking like that and you'll see where you heading to.

I'm not saying to next car, afterall, you just got sex with her and such. But if she's acting bad with you, don't even think twice and find another chick.

 

[yul]

One-itis. Get over it. You may think she's only a friend to you, and yada yada, but keep thinking like that and you'll see where you heading to.

I'm not saying to next car, afterall, you just got sex with her and such. But if she's acting bad with you, don't even think twice and find another chick.

So basically, this behaviour is unacceptable?

I can deal with it. Heck, I have dated with a few lately and will find another one just as great.

But tell me, how is it supposed to go with someone in normal circumstances?

 

[yul]

bump

 

[Tomatoes]

Do you know where she works?

Go down there with some friends on a night out.....See how she reacts....If she doesnt acknowledge you....Start gaming girls in the bar right there. Her intrest level will go threw the roof.

 

[yul]

Start gaming girls in the bar right there. Her intrest level will go threw the roof.

The first time, I was doing exactly that then she gave me her email as I was going out the door...

So her not calling back is no good right?

I'm afraid to get tagged like all the other guys....

Unless she DOES want me to go back and see me flirt with the other HB's....hmmm

 

[Tomatoes]

The first time, I was doing exactly that then she gave me her email as I was going out the door...

So her not calling back is no good right?

I'm afraid to get tagged like all the other guys....

Unless she DOES want me to go back and see me flirt with the other HB's....hmmm

I'll tell you what.....Call her again.....Then do it 2 days later...that way you called her twice. You went to where she was at work. If she doesnt warm welcome you then its her own fault.

 

[Serialized3]

One-night Stand

 

[yul]

One-night Stand

Heww...that WOULD be painful.

What's the reasoning again that's going to keep from going to the shrink?
The fact that there are millions of other (better) women right?

 

[Charm&Style]

You say shes a barmaid....???

isnt that like gaming a stripper, she told you she has guys lining up for her and so forth and she prbly lied about most the shvt she told you.

i agree with the homie tomatoe....get a group of your friends and go to where she works.

 

[crystalmeth]

Spoken like a true Afc!

You are a fool.

 

[yul]

WHY WHY TELL ME WHY?

I can take it, just tell me..

I'm AFC because I want to get back with her?

Because she's a barmaid?

I'm AFC because I whine?

Help me :crazy:

 

[Bvbidd]

WHY WHY TELL ME WHY?

I can take it, just tell me..

I'm AFC because I want to get back with her?

Because she's a barmaid?

I'm AFC because I whine?

Help me :crazy:

Forget whether your an AFC or not. Your just a loser in general.

 

[yul]

Forget whether your an AFC or not. Your just a loser in general.

Holy crap!

Why would you say such a horrible thing? You are a SENIOR DJ no?
That is not what I would expect from someone like you.

Again, please explain you reasoning. I am here for help.
If you can't explain yourself, then you are to be ashamed of you behaviour.

 

[Tazman]

Can you not see how it makes you look when you're desperately trying to get in contact with someone who isn't responding or initiating contact themselves? It makes you look WEAK. Do you always want to be in a position of weakness? Show that you have a life and you don't have time to waste playing silly games. You don't get mad or even, you simply move on. If she calls you act like you forgot about her or atleast come across that way so she feels like she didn't have that strong of an affect on you.

 

[st_99]

One-night Stand

:yes: and thats that. Next.

 

[xxSLavExx]

you screwed up by calling the next day..that's some girl type stuff......

 

[Charm&Style]

yul dont listen to these guys....they get annoyed by AFC's

anyways just go with a group of friends to her bar and if she initiates you then fine if not NEXT and screw some broads from the pub.

just dont be desperate for the bvtch, theres toooo many chicks to be trippen over one.

 

[Serialized3]

You're probably the fifty-seventh dude she's laid this year. She saw you as a one-night stand and that's it. What, do you want a relationship with a barmaid ho or what?

 

[yul]

What, do you want a relationship with a barmaid ho or what?

Another bang would be great though.

Thanks for clarifying things up.