"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Got laid... is this all?!?

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I went from having never been kissed to getting laid in just 2 hours, just a moment ago! I'm sure sosuave had something to do with it as I have been lurking here for years and tried to read as much as possible. So I'd like to say a big THANK YOU to this forum for giving me all this help! :cheer:

But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here! :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DoctorLW

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Sex gets better the more you have it and the better at it that you get.

So yeah, it pretty much never lives up to expectations.
 
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Congrats.

The emptiness you feel inside is because sex and a girl in your life can never become your full happiness and contentment.

That comes from within.

Though the feeling can be added to if you find a proper girl to have a fulfilling and mature caring relationship with.

Basically though you have to be happy and satisfied by yourself before you can ever be truly happy.

Girls, sex, drugs and whatever else people use to distract themselves usually always falls flat and loneliness follows them wherever they go because they never truly worked on themselves.

Just masked their pain with distractions.
 
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I'll spare you the details! :)
In short, I went for the kiss and then everything goes smoothly from there.

I've realised now that a girl can never give you full happiness. I thought it would. Or maybe this is just the wrong girl. One of my purposes in life is to get kids, and for that I need a good girl! My mind is too full to analyze this right now. Thanks for your comments, I still have a lot to learn!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MooseGod

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That empty feeling is called reality...sex is great, but people hype it so much you'd think it's like snorting a line of coke while skydiving on fire or something. If anything, you've finally realized that you weren't missing out on THAT much, just one of many aspects of the human experience.

What you need to do now, instead of thinking that "maybe she's just not the right one" is to find other things to enrich your life and contribute to your happiness, while getting some poontang on the side. Women should be an afterthought.

EDIT...just realized Kontroller pretty much just said all that in a nutshell...
 
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Radiator said:
But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here!
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Now you have solved the first mystery of pvssy! It's really not that mystical, now is it? Now the healing can begin, my good friend.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Don't get caught up in the quantity over quality myth. Ever wonder why people have compulsions? They're under the perception that what they are doing is giving them the type of gratification that they want. Unfortunately, they haven't actually defined what they're actually looking for. Don't get fall for the fallacy that sex and women define you.
 
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Radiator said:
I went from having never been kissed to getting laid in just 2 hours, just a moment ago! I'm sure sosuave had something to do with it as I have been lurking here for years and tried to read as much as possible. So I'd like to say a big THANK YOU to this forum for giving me all this help! :cheer:

But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here! :)
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... dude. Did you at least wait for her to fall asleep first?

(woot. Congrats, btw. Yeah, sex ain't gonna make your world a better place, but it will make for a good night.)
 
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It is all about quality. This forum is based on quantity. Seriously, I would be scared to see what most of these "DJ Boys" are getting.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My first thought when I lost my virginity was "is that it?"

I mean it was ok, but I didn't think it was all it was cracked up to be. I think sex for the most part is overhyped. Don't get me wrong, it's very enjoyable and I love it, but it's not the be all end all activity for me. I can name several things that I would rather do, assuming I'm not sex starved.
 
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I thought the empty feeling is due to the fact that you just blew a load of epic proportion.

Yeah sex is great but it isn't gonna enlighten you or anything.
 
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KontrollerX said:
Congrats.

The emptiness you feel inside is because sex and a girl in your life can never become your full happiness and contentment.

That comes from within.

Though the feeling can be added to if you find a proper girl to have a fulfilling and mature caring relationship with.

Basically though you have to be happy and satisfied by yourself before you can ever be truly happy.

Girls, sex, drugs and whatever else people use to distract themselves usually always falls flat and loneliness follows them wherever they go because they never truly worked on themselves.

Just masked their pain with distractions.
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:up:
 
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what are you guys talking about

my first time was awesome, dont remember much, but i do remember thinking

"that was awesome"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Infamous J said:
My first thought when I lost my virginity was "is that it?"

I mean it was ok, but I didn't think it was all it was cracked up to be. I think sex for the most part is overhyped. Don't get me wrong, it's very enjoyable and I love it, but it's not the be all end all activity for me. I can name several things that I would rather do, assuming I'm not sex starved.
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To each his own! :whistle:
 
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I wasn't really disappointed at first. I was excited more than anything. But yeah, sex is just sex. To me it's like food, when you have a big appetite for it...it's damn good. Right now..I have a very small appetite for it for some reason and it always pisses my GF off.

But real happiness comes from the inside and your family IMO.
 
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DoctorLW said:
So yeah, it pretty much never lives up to expectations.
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This is the dirty secret the vagina-vendors didn't want you to know!

Seriously, it's great and not what it's built up to be at the same time. Just another part of life to be balanced against everything else.
 
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DonJuan11

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iqqi said:
Sex with a stranger you feel nothing for can be a very sad wake up call.
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That's when its the best. The more *anon* the sex is, the better it is for guys.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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