Got laid... is this all?!?

[Radiator]

I went from having never been kissed to getting laid in just 2 hours, just a moment ago! I'm sure sosuave had something to do with it as I have been lurking here for years and tried to read as much as possible. So I'd like to say a big THANK YOU to this forum for giving me all this help! :cheer:

But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here!

 

[slitherjef]

C'mon, man, we want details!

 

[DoctorLW]

Sex gets better the more you have it and the better at it that you get.

So yeah, it pretty much never lives up to expectations.

 

[KontrollerX]

Congrats.

The emptiness you feel inside is because sex and a girl in your life can never become your full happiness and contentment.

That comes from within.

Though the feeling can be added to if you find a proper girl to have a fulfilling and mature caring relationship with.

Basically though you have to be happy and satisfied by yourself before you can ever be truly happy.

Girls, sex, drugs and whatever else people use to distract themselves usually always falls flat and loneliness follows them wherever they go because they never truly worked on themselves.

Just masked their pain with distractions.

 

[Radiator]

I'll spare you the details!
In short, I went for the kiss and then everything goes smoothly from there.

I've realised now that a girl can never give you full happiness. I thought it would. Or maybe this is just the wrong girl. One of my purposes in life is to get kids, and for that I need a good girl! My mind is too full to analyze this right now. Thanks for your comments, I still have a lot to learn!

 

[MooseGod]

That empty feeling is called reality...sex is great, but people hype it so much you'd think it's like snorting a line of coke while skydiving on fire or something. If anything, you've finally realized that you weren't missing out on THAT much, just one of many aspects of the human experience.

What you need to do now, instead of thinking that "maybe she's just not the right one" is to find other things to enrich your life and contribute to your happiness, while getting some poontang on the side. Women should be an afterthought.

EDIT...just realized Kontroller pretty much just said all that in a nutshell...

 

[The Deacon]

But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here!

Now you have solved the first mystery of pvssy! It's really not that mystical, now is it? Now the healing can begin, my good friend.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Don't get caught up in the quantity over quality myth. Ever wonder why people have compulsions? They're under the perception that what they are doing is giving them the type of gratification that they want. Unfortunately, they haven't actually defined what they're actually looking for. Don't get fall for the fallacy that sex and women define you.

 

[Damocles]

I went from having never been kissed to getting laid in just 2 hours, just a moment ago! I'm sure sosuave had something to do with it as I have been lurking here for years and tried to read as much as possible. So I'd like to say a big THANK YOU to this forum for giving me all this help! :cheer:

But I can't help this empty feeling I have inside. Was this it? Isn't there more to it than this? Maybe I've built up too much expectations. I'm closer to 30 than to 20, so I've had some time to build these expectations. Hopefully it can only get better from here!

... dude. Did you at least wait for her to fall asleep first?

(woot. Congrats, btw. Yeah, sex ain't gonna make your world a better place, but it will make for a good night.)

 

[meitenesrigas]

It is all about quality. This forum is based on quantity. Seriously, I would be scared to see what most of these "DJ Boys" are getting.

 

[Infamous J]

My first thought when I lost my virginity was "is that it?"

I mean it was ok, but I didn't think it was all it was cracked up to be. I think sex for the most part is overhyped. Don't get me wrong, it's very enjoyable and I love it, but it's not the be all end all activity for me. I can name several things that I would rather do, assuming I'm not sex starved.

 

[Jitterbug]

I thought the empty feeling is due to the fact that you just blew a load of epic proportion.

Yeah sex is great but it isn't gonna enlighten you or anything.

 

[iqqi]

Congrats.

The emptiness you feel inside is because sex and a girl in your life can never become your full happiness and contentment.

That comes from within.

Though the feeling can be added to if you find a proper girl to have a fulfilling and mature caring relationship with.

Basically though you have to be happy and satisfied by yourself before you can ever be truly happy.

Girls, sex, drugs and whatever else people use to distract themselves usually always falls flat and loneliness follows them wherever they go because they never truly worked on themselves.

Just masked their pain with distractions.

 

[iqqi]

Sex with a stranger you feel nothing for can be a very sad wake up call.

Listen to "lover i don't have to love" by bright eyes.

 

[lordson]

what are you guys talking about

my first time was awesome, dont remember much, but i do remember thinking

"that was awesome"

 

[azanon]

My first thought when I lost my virginity was "is that it?"

I mean it was ok, but I didn't think it was all it was cracked up to be. I think sex for the most part is overhyped. Don't get me wrong, it's very enjoyable and I love it, but it's not the be all end all activity for me. I can name several things that I would rather do, assuming I'm not sex starved.

To each his own!

 

[zinc64]

I wasn't really disappointed at first. I was excited more than anything. But yeah, sex is just sex. To me it's like food, when you have a big appetite for it...it's damn good. Right now..I have a very small appetite for it for some reason and it always pisses my GF off.

But real happiness comes from the inside and your family IMO.

 

[Dagwood]

It´s called tristitia post coitum or postcoital depression. Quite a common thing for many guys. Not a real depression, just the feeling of emptiness you describe.

You might google both terms.
http://maverickphilosopher.powerblogs.com/posts/1138892109.shtml

 

[bigjohnson]

So yeah, it pretty much never lives up to expectations.

This is the dirty secret the vagina-vendors didn't want you to know!

Seriously, it's great and not what it's built up to be at the same time. Just another part of life to be balanced against everything else.

 

[DonJuan11]

Sex with a stranger you feel nothing for can be a very sad wake up call.

That's when its the best. The more *anon* the sex is, the better it is for guys.