"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Got her number without saying a word! (FR)

diplomatic_lies

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Okay since that male prostitute poster keeps telling us to make field reports, I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've learnt quite a lot from today, and hopefully everyone else does too.

I was in the elevator (or "lift" for Americans) alone with this girl from class. She was this European exchange student from "Milan". We'd never spoke in class, except during the "Group Introduction Sessions".

I got bored and started playing with the elevator's buttons (they make a cool "Ding!" sound when you press them). After playing the first verse of the Australian national anthem, she looks a little amused, and I invited her to join in (no words spoken, just body language).

So after a bit of horseplay, we end up poking each other, playing with the buttons, and just having a good laugh about it. Then my floor comes up, and I have to get off. I pull out my mobile phone and point it at her. She gives me a mock expression like she's saying "You're very direct!", but inputs her number anyway.

When I got home I gave her a quick call to get her to come hiking with me. That was the first time we actually spoke. We exchanged some details (she told me a bit about herself, like her name), and set up morning coffee, followed by a nice day/evening hike.


I've always known the scientific stuff about "90% of first impressions is made through body language/facial expression", but I really had to see it in action to really understand it!


PS. Rarely dated European girls (since I don't live in Europe), but it seems a lot of them are pretty open and friendly, even to strangers. I like that, very different from the "Who the f*ck are you? I've got mace!" response.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hows that for body language to tell you what i think about your post?:D


Laterz...
 

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haha, knowing my luck a girl would've given me a look that said "awwww he's special" when I played with the noise making buttons

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Climax

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Originally posted by Drewgie
haha, knowing my luck a girl would've given me a look that said "awwww he's special" when I played with the noise making buttons

:crackup:
lol!

Laterz...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
"Who the f*ck are you? I've got mace!"
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :woo:
they don't know what they'r missing.
 

catch

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Originally posted by cant think of a user name
That's awesome :)!

I just hope that people wont try to overanalyse this and give it a name, like: "elevator-button-opener" :D.
DAMM-there goes my next post!
 

MindOverMatter

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very unique FR, I enjoyed reading this. playing with the elevator buttons and not saying anything to her made the whole elevator trip unique for her, and it was different from the way anyone else would have asked for her number. it's good to see people thinking outside of the box.

peace!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nice, report back after you go on that date with her.
 
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