"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got her number without saying a word! (FR)

diplomatic_lies

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Okay since that male prostitute poster keeps telling us to make field reports, I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've learnt quite a lot from today, and hopefully everyone else does too.

I was in the elevator (or "lift" for Americans) alone with this girl from class. She was this European exchange student from "Milan". We'd never spoke in class, except during the "Group Introduction Sessions".

I got bored and started playing with the elevator's buttons (they make a cool "Ding!" sound when you press them). After playing the first verse of the Australian national anthem, she looks a little amused, and I invited her to join in (no words spoken, just body language).

So after a bit of horseplay, we end up poking each other, playing with the buttons, and just having a good laugh about it. Then my floor comes up, and I have to get off. I pull out my mobile phone and point it at her. She gives me a mock expression like she's saying "You're very direct!", but inputs her number anyway.

When I got home I gave her a quick call to get her to come hiking with me. That was the first time we actually spoke. We exchanged some details (she told me a bit about herself, like her name), and set up morning coffee, followed by a nice day/evening hike.


I've always known the scientific stuff about "90% of first impressions is made through body language/facial expression", but I really had to see it in action to really understand it!


PS. Rarely dated European girls (since I don't live in Europe), but it seems a lot of them are pretty open and friendly, even to strangers. I like that, very different from the "Who the f*ck are you? I've got mace!" response.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Climax

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:up: :cheer: :woo:



















































Hows that for body language to tell you what i think about your post?:D


Laterz...
 

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haha, knowing my luck a girl would've given me a look that said "awwww he's special" when I played with the noise making buttons

:crackup:
 

Climax

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Originally posted by Drewgie
haha, knowing my luck a girl would've given me a look that said "awwww he's special" when I played with the noise making buttons

:crackup:
lol!

Laterz...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
"Who the f*ck are you? I've got mace!"
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :woo:
they don't know what they'r missing.
 

catch

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Originally posted by cant think of a user name
That's awesome :)!

I just hope that people wont try to overanalyse this and give it a name, like: "elevator-button-opener" :D.
DAMM-there goes my next post!
 

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very unique FR, I enjoyed reading this. playing with the elevator buttons and not saying anything to her made the whole elevator trip unique for her, and it was different from the way anyone else would have asked for her number. it's good to see people thinking outside of the box.

peace!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DonJuanMonk

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Nice, report back after you go on that date with her.
 
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