"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Got her number, got a date, keep contacting her?

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Hey guys, maybe you can help me out here:

I met a girl online and was messaging her for a few days, then got the number, called her up and set up a date. Only problem is that the only time both of us are free is a week later. Should I keep on contacting her throughout the week? Call, text?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fatal Jay

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if you set up the date, what would be any other reason to contact her?

Dudes mess up thinking they need to keep contacting, you showing for 1. that you have no other options 2. that you have afc tendencies, and girls hate those.
 

LMFAO

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Espi said:
"Hi. Just checking in to make sure we're still on for tomorrow. See ya at 8?"
That's AFC behaviour.
 

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If you 2 had a good vibe going on, keep that vibe going on. You know, these jokes or stories or things or sexual innuendos even that only you two know about. But if you have no vibe or anything I wouldn't text her to much.

Depends if you had a good vibe already going on with her. If so and you enjoy it and she does too (messages back) you can text her a few times.

If ur intuition says its a good idea, give her a call, but don't bring up the date. Just say something like (to a sporty type): Hi X, how you're doing? Good yeah?... yeah I was over at the Gym X doing some hardcore treadmilling and this funny thing happened, thought I call you and let you know... And then at the end just quickly and casually say, well see you coming friday then, have a good evening and hang up.

ANyway, if you WANT to call her just do so, just don't be needy in any way. Dating has to be fun for you also. There is not absolute law about not contacting her before a first date. Confidence and good social skills are the key.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LMFAO

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Keep any conversations short before a date and always end it with the impression that you're running off somewhere, rather the reality of jacking off to porn all day.
 

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Confirm without confirming. Shift 30 mins to the original time.

Text:
"Hey, HB, I'm gonna be 30 mins late/early" tonight, see you at 00:00"

If she replies back with:
"who the Ƒuck are you!?" then stick a fork in it, it's done.
 
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