"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got her number, got a date, keep contacting her?

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Hey guys, maybe you can help me out here:

I met a girl online and was messaging her for a few days, then got the number, called her up and set up a date. Only problem is that the only time both of us are free is a week later. Should I keep on contacting her throughout the week? Call, text?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fatal Jay

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if you set up the date, what would be any other reason to contact her?

Dudes mess up thinking they need to keep contacting, you showing for 1. that you have no other options 2. that you have afc tendencies, and girls hate those.
 

LMFAO

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Espi said:
"Hi. Just checking in to make sure we're still on for tomorrow. See ya at 8?"
That's AFC behaviour.
 

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If you 2 had a good vibe going on, keep that vibe going on. You know, these jokes or stories or things or sexual innuendos even that only you two know about. But if you have no vibe or anything I wouldn't text her to much.

Depends if you had a good vibe already going on with her. If so and you enjoy it and she does too (messages back) you can text her a few times.

If ur intuition says its a good idea, give her a call, but don't bring up the date. Just say something like (to a sporty type): Hi X, how you're doing? Good yeah?... yeah I was over at the Gym X doing some hardcore treadmilling and this funny thing happened, thought I call you and let you know... And then at the end just quickly and casually say, well see you coming friday then, have a good evening and hang up.

ANyway, if you WANT to call her just do so, just don't be needy in any way. Dating has to be fun for you also. There is not absolute law about not contacting her before a first date. Confidence and good social skills are the key.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LMFAO

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Keep any conversations short before a date and always end it with the impression that you're running off somewhere, rather the reality of jacking off to porn all day.
 

VladPatton

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Confirm without confirming. Shift 30 mins to the original time.

Text:
"Hey, HB, I'm gonna be 30 mins late/early" tonight, see you at 00:00"

If she replies back with:
"who the Ƒuck are you!?" then stick a fork in it, it's done.
 
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