"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Got her number, got a date, keep contacting her?

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Hey guys, maybe you can help me out here:

I met a girl online and was messaging her for a few days, then got the number, called her up and set up a date. Only problem is that the only time both of us are free is a week later. Should I keep on contacting her throughout the week? Call, text?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fatal Jay

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if you set up the date, what would be any other reason to contact her?

Dudes mess up thinking they need to keep contacting, you showing for 1. that you have no other options 2. that you have afc tendencies, and girls hate those.
 

LMFAO

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Espi said:
"Hi. Just checking in to make sure we're still on for tomorrow. See ya at 8?"
That's AFC behaviour.
 

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If you 2 had a good vibe going on, keep that vibe going on. You know, these jokes or stories or things or sexual innuendos even that only you two know about. But if you have no vibe or anything I wouldn't text her to much.

Depends if you had a good vibe already going on with her. If so and you enjoy it and she does too (messages back) you can text her a few times.

If ur intuition says its a good idea, give her a call, but don't bring up the date. Just say something like (to a sporty type): Hi X, how you're doing? Good yeah?... yeah I was over at the Gym X doing some hardcore treadmilling and this funny thing happened, thought I call you and let you know... And then at the end just quickly and casually say, well see you coming friday then, have a good evening and hang up.

ANyway, if you WANT to call her just do so, just don't be needy in any way. Dating has to be fun for you also. There is not absolute law about not contacting her before a first date. Confidence and good social skills are the key.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LMFAO

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Keep any conversations short before a date and always end it with the impression that you're running off somewhere, rather the reality of jacking off to porn all day.
 

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Confirm without confirming. Shift 30 mins to the original time.

Text:
"Hey, HB, I'm gonna be 30 mins late/early" tonight, see you at 00:00"

If she replies back with:
"who the Ƒuck are you!?" then stick a fork in it, it's done.
 
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