"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Got fired, what do I put in my apps?

andersonsmith969

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I got fired for "having an attitude." So I guess it was a legitimate reason. It was at Wendy's and I trained there for only 2 weeks.

I want to know what the best way to handle this would be. I'm not asking if I should lie or what you think might be a good idea. I am asking HOW to lie, and what statistically would give me the best chances.

Currently I am just not putting it on my apps, like I never worked there. That's what my dad suggested, he said it was never a good idea to say you were fired. Other opinions on this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dajinn

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He is right. If you got fired after working there for a year I would list it but just make something up if asked why you left if you have a big gap in employment or if you're generally asked something like "why did you quit XYZ"(even if you were only unemployed for a month)or "why did you leave XYZ to come to us".

Even if your prospective future employer had called them to verify employment depending on your state it is illegal for them to say anything bad about you, or if you were terminated, etc. Of course that doesn't mean that everyone will uphold honorable levels of integrity. But usually employers only call past ones to ask "I'd just like to verify that so and so worked here on these dates, etc.".

And actually if you have a past employer bad mouth you over something ridiculously minute(like a disagreement or something)and they seem unable to control their emotions(like they're getting needlessly emotional about something dumb)it can act in your favor for the new employer, who would basically see that they(whoever they would be)were unreasonable. If that makes sense. I know it's beyond the scope of the question but just thought it was worth mentioning.

Just curious, what kind of attitude did you have?
 

MaddXMan

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Never admit to being fired. These days most employers do not give references. They only verify dates of employment and job title/pay, especially big companies. There is concern about legal risk in giving a bad reference. No reason to admit when it can't be verified.

Just say there was a schedule conflict, you left for better opportunity elsewhere, you wanted to go to school....just make up something that does not put you in a bad light.

Any employment term under 90 days, just leave out of your history.
 

Leporello

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I agree that two weeks isn't worth listing.

In general, if you worked somewhere for a substantial period of time and get fired...list it, and if they ask why you left say something about 'lack of career opportunities' or whatever.

It can get tricky if they ask for references....if possible, find one of your coworkers who still likes you and use them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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